| Originally Posted by carolina24 |
Ladies I'm about to rant for a bit, so hang in with me....
FI had been married before. Clearly it didn't work out, but it took me a LOOONG time to be ok with his past. I never thought I would date let alone marry someone who was married before.
So his past is his past and it doesn't affect our relationship. but now that we're engaged, I feel like I'm second to his ex and it sucks!!!
he doesnt make me feel that way, it's the situation. for example, I always wanted to do a framed pic that people could sign at our wedding and that's what he had last time. i wanted to give him a really nice watch for his present and thats what she did. even worse, he invited his parents friends (who live in england) and they arent coming bc they came for the last wedding and its too expensive!
All those feelings and insecurities that I had at the beginning of our relationship about being "number two" are coming back
i feel like it's "been there, done that" and our wedding is coming in second to what he did with her.
I've been engaged before and he says there are things he wishes I hadn't done with the ex and I completely understand, but it's different for guys, you know? I know that he loves me more than anything and all that matters is that WE are together and getting married, but for the little girl inside me that had an idea of what this time in my life would be like, this sucks
Thanks for listening!!!
Malisa...I understand completely!!!! My FI was married before and this is my first. At first I felt like I was walking in someone's shoes. But then I remember they are divorced ( for a reason of course) and he is marrying me. Everything we do is special. But it is hard because even the other day I took him to see DL hughley and he had been several times before and I know it had to be with another women. Ugh!!! But we have to let those moments past.
The only person for him coming is his mom. He is unhappy about it but he said to me and I am sure your FI has told you the same that this about you two no matter who comes. You will be his wife and he will be your husband no matter what.