My biggest stressor thus far has been getting his family on board with the decision to get married so far away. I have ALWAYS wanted to get married on a beach. We originally thought maybe South Carolina, Florida area...then I quickly realized..we would be getting on yet another plane for a honeymoon, there are NO all-inclusive places in the US, and if we are going to do this...lets do it RIGHT! So I started looking at islands....Originally thinking the Virgin Islands, so the people that didn't have passports already wouldn't have to mess with getting them. I then learned how expensive it can be to fly there, and decided....It's MY wedding...I shouldn't be planning this around other people! I've been to Mexico twice, and Punta Cana once, so my next destination was going to be Jamaica! I ran this idea past my fiancee and he was on board! I decided that was going to be the destination! Now to figure out which resort to choose!
When we mentioned this to his family, his mother instantly laughed..saying...HAH! RIGHT! We are not spending that much money!....I don't think she thought I was serious! Well...SORRY! Every since we decided this his family has been causing issues. His mom finally is starting to come around and actually said she wants to see my info I've gathered. Just when I thought I could breathe easier and they were coming around, his father made mention to his gma that he WAS NOT going to leave the country.....Seriously?!?!?! I'm really having issues with this...I am NOT budging on MY wedding....I think alot of it has to do with...they have NEVER been out of the country, let alone...NEVER even been to a beach. They don't realize the ALL-INCLUSIVE part of it. I really think if they had experienced it before they wouldn't be soo negative on the idea. Then to top it off...now his sister is throwing a fit, due to the fact we have decided not to take his 2 year old daughter with us down for the ceremony, and only have her at the at home reception. Now apparently I'm a HORRIBLE person because we made this decision, for MANY reasons!! She would be the ONLY child in the group, we are staying at an adults-only resort, even if we got a pass for her to come over, it would only be for the ceremony, we would have to get her a separate plane ticket, get her a passport (which would be hell in itself getting her mother to show up to sign for it), someone would have to watch her the whole time, I don't think she needs to be around all of the drinking and partying that will no doubt be going on, she won't remember it, and most obviously and importantly...her mother is lets just say the most pleasant person to deal with and would NEVER allow us to take her out of the country, mainly just because she likes to do ANYTHING that will hurt him or make things difficult for us. His family knows how much trouble she has already caused and the type of person she is...I would think that in itself would make them realize our decision is the right one...NOT the case...instead I'M the bad person now.
I'm sticking to my guns and not letting ANY of their drama they are trying to cause bring me down or change any of my decisions. My fiancee is on board with all of this and I made sure of that in the beginning. It's just SUPER frustrating on top of trying to make all the decisions on the resort and trying to figure what to spend money on and what not to! I ended up changing resorts and FINALLY after like 2 months made a final decision on one...now just waiting to hear back about my date and make the deposit! I feel like once I have that part done I will feel like ALOT has been lifted off my shoulders! Hoping things start looking up! Sorry! Rant over!!! I haven't talked to many people about my situation...but the ones I have talked to have totally agreed with our decision! Some people just don't see it from our point of view I guess! Oh well! OUR WEDDING!!!