Posted 30 September 2009 - 08:16 PM
We pushed back our wedding because we decided to buy a house last winter. Financially we probably could have done both but it would have been stressful, and corners may have been cut. Now that we're settled in to the house I can focus on the wedding without it cutting into too much time or money. For us it would have been really stressful doing both at once as both of our schedules with work can get pretty crazy. I like having my house first too- I feel like I can splurge a bit here and there with wedding stuff without feeling like I'm taking it out of our down payment fund. I guess if you choose the wedding first (nothing wrong with that either) then it would work the same way too, you could then focus on your house after the wedding is over without feeling like you're shortchanging your wedding. If you have the ability to budget both, and the time and patience to do it then by all means go for it- but be sure that you give it some serious thought first would be my advice. They are both really stressful life events, emotionally and financially.