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Help!! Invitation wording dilemna!

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#1 Sheena.

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    Posted 03 August 2009 - 02:29 PM

    I'm not sure what to do cos I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings...

    My parent's are divorced - father is paying for the wedding well 90% of it.

    My FIs parent's are contributing 10% to go towards our rehearsal dinner.

    Do i say "together with their parents"


    Just list my father? or say Mr and Mrs Anderson (my mother still has the same last name and so does my father's wife)

    I feel weird listing FIs parents since my dad is paying for the majority and they didn't really want to contribute in the 1st place - I overheard them saying the parents of the bride normally pay. But then again they are contributing something even if its not much.


    #2 Sarah


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      Posted 03 August 2009 - 03:14 PM

      I would definitely put "together with their parents" if you're worrying about hurting feelings or feel unsure of how to list them. You could also go the other route and list them all and put

      Mr & Mrs John Anderson (your dad & his wife)
      Ms Susan Anderson (your mom)

      request the honor of your presence at the marriage of your daughter

      Your Name
      Your Fiance's Name

      son of Mr and Mrs Johnson (your FI's parents)

      Stating "request the honor of your presence" generally is accepted as a "neutral" way to invite, which could mean they've paid for it or not...

      #3 jenninjamaica

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        Posted 03 August 2009 - 04:19 PM

        I like "Together with their families" so everyone feels included but the emphasis is on the couple. Plus no one invited needs to know who paid for what!

        #4 autjo

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          Posted 03 August 2009 - 04:30 PM

          I agree with most of the other posts. No one needs to know who is paying what. We put:

          Together with their parents

          Autumn blah blah
          Brett blah blah

          Request the pleasure
          of your company
          at the celebrations
          of their union

          #5 Sheena.

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            Posted 03 August 2009 - 04:34 PM

            Thanks ladies! This helps a lot! One less thing to worry about!

            #6 Brenda&Jeff09

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              Posted 03 August 2009 - 07:59 PM

              We're also using "together with their families".... feels better including everyone all together.

              22 booked... we're ready to go!!!

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