Do we need to postpone our DW?

[ShelbyFL]

I am a newbie here - I started searching for help when I knew things were going wrong with our planning and stumbled across this great forum. Well, now here we are, the end of May. We had a Wedding date of October 10th. We signed up with a travel agent/dw specialist in March who assured me we had plenty of time to plan an October wedding in the USVI. Then she came back with prices and we realized we couldn't afford that. 2nd choice, Jamaica. She brought us resorts & prices to choose from... we thought about it a bit. Our date wasn't available. We had to choose a new one. We made a decision. She went on vacation. Then she came back and sent "updated" price quotes. Huh? Then we made a "final" decision based on these "new" prices. Come to find out that the prices she quoted us "per couple" were actually PER PERSON. This doubled the cost to our families and friends. No go. Now it is less than 5 months from our chosen date...no STD's sent, no resort booked, nothing finalized. I am freaking out. Needless to say I fired her. Now I am starting to work with someone else who says I have ENOUGH TIME if we make some decisions quickly.

What do you think? I don't want to postpone. But I also want our friends and family to have enough time to plan to join us if they want to. Less than 5 months... is that enough time?

I want to scream, cry and throw things...

 

Thanks for reading this...

[egsarah]

I think that you have enough time you just need to figure things out. The good thing about a destination wedding is that a lot of the things that take a lot of time to plan and deal with for a traditional wedding you don't have to do. Most of the resorts have their own vendors so you don't have to worry about about booking a lot of different groups for your date.

 

I'm about 6 months out and only two of my guests have booked so 5 months of plenty of time for your guests to decide.

 

I hope that helps! HANG IN THERE AND GOOD LUCK!!

[stefnicole]

I think you'll be fine. My dad didn't even book his flight until last week! Do your friends and family know you plan to have a DW?

[Chanti]

Hi there, you can do it! We initially booked at a resort in December, and after a couple of frustrating months had to switch to a different resort. So by mid-February, we finally sent out our invitations. We're still getting married on our chosen date despite the inital complications, and in less than 4 months of planning :-)

[ShelbyFL]

Wow! Ladies, thank you for the encouragement! Y'all are seriously making me feel so much better. I have a phone appt. with the new TA tomorrow and I hope to feel even better after that. Thank you so much for your replies... Hugs!

[ShelbyFL]

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Originally Posted by stefnicole I think you'll be fine. My dad didn't even book his flight until last week! Do your friends and family know you plan to have a DW?

Well...some do and some don't. Most of my family knows and my friends know. His friends and family are a little sketchy. FI isn't big on details and I know I personally haven't told his family. So...they most likely don't know. I should probably work on that...

[kari]

You definilty have enough time to book and get everyone on board and booked with you. Im sure it will all go verysmoothly :-) good luck with everything. Have you picked a resort in Jamacia? is that where you have still decided?

[ShelbyFL]

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Originally Posted by kari You definilty have enough time to book and get everyone on board and booked with you. Im sure it will all go verysmoothly :-) good luck with everything. Have you picked a resort in Jamacia? is that where you have still decided?

Hi Kari!
We were going with Jamaica and were between the Riu Mo Bay and Sandals Mo Bay - - but now I'm really not sure... Jamaica sounds great to me, I've never been! I've always wanted to get married on a beach in paradise... How did you choose Ocho Rios?

[setsail09]

I am getting married on a 7 day cruise and I gave my guests over a year to plan and pay it off. Some of them had to put in for vacation time more than six months in advance.

[ShelbyFL]

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Originally Posted by setsail09 I am getting married on a 7 day cruise and I gave my guests over a year to plan and pay it off. Some of them had to put in for vacation time more than six months in advance.

This is what I am afraid of. We wanted to give them at least 6 months notice...now it will be about 4 months. I guess we'll decide this week and then it will be October.... or maybe February!
Either way I am sure it will all turn out for the best... We aren't inviting that many people and doubt we'll have more than 20 join us...but maybe less if not given enough time to plan...
Thanks for your response... we thought about a cruise too..that sounds really fun. Congrats!