We need some help (sort of long)
Posted 27 January 2009 - 09:13 PM
I'm not too sure if this is where I'm supposed to post this, but it does have to do with invitations. We have 2 problems and I'm hoping to get some help/ideas/info, whatever you gals can provide.
I'm confused with the whole invitation thing. We are getting married in Jamaica but having a small wedding and not inviting everyone. We will be having a AHR a couple of months when we get back. This is where I'm confused. Do we send invites to Jamaica and to the AHR at the same time? If we don't, and people hear that we aren't inviting them to Jamaica, won't that cause problems? I'm just not too sure how to go about doing this. Any ideas??
FI's dad was abusive both physically and mentally to his wife and 3 children. The FI went and told his dad (whom he sees 2 times a year) that we were getting married in Jamaica. FI's mom has told us that she does not want him there (we're helping her come with us) and frankly, I don't want him there, I don't like this man. How the heck are we supposed to "uninvite" him to Jamaica? FI doesn't really think he'll come anyway, but he could if we put the invite out there.
Has anybody else run into similar problems?? Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I'm not too sure how to deal with this because my family all gets along great.
Thanks ladies, you're always there to help!!!!
Posted 27 January 2009 - 10:07 PM
We didn't run into any problems. People who weren't invited to Mexico were just reassured that it was a small gathering and that we would be celebrating with them back home.
As for the second problem, if you don't think he will come then I would invite him. If you think he may surprise you and come then I would have FI have a serious talk with him. You probably don't want to have hurt feelings regarding your wedding BUT you can't have the stress of this issue hanging over you throughout this process!
Posted 27 January 2009 - 10:14 PM
Posted 27 January 2009 - 10:52 PM
As for 2 ... I can totally relate ... this actually was my mother in all senses you are saying about your FI's dad... and I have not talked with her in years... but she did find out about our plans through someone else and said she was coming ... This never happened even though she had told people she was coming. Thank god ... but I think it's more of a cover for some ... to make it look like the are coming and not show... almost a pride issue because it is a son/daughter thing and they know they are being left out. It added stress for me... but in the end I had my day and no signs of my mother.
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