Jump to content

Post Wedding Depression?


trisha0612
 Share

Recommended Posts

Alright...well not so much depression..but emptiness?? I've been so sad the last couple of days now that things are OVER. I know its the beginning of our life together and I couldn't be happier about it..but just having no more wedding blues.

Anyone else feel this way??

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I obviously have not experiences this, because we are not married yet, but I try to think this way in terms of a lot of things... There are always things to look forward to. Your life together, if you plan to have kids, travel somewhere, buy a house, a lot of different things. Plus, you are a newlywed! Don't worry, you will be okay!!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I am not married yet, but I can totally understand what you mean. I can see that I will be upset when I don't have this thing to plan anymore wink.gif

 

It is something that you thought about (if you are like me) for many, many months and now it is over. Kind of like how kids feel after Christmas...it is just over.

 

BUt like Joanna said, now you can get excited about being married and planning your life together :)

 

BIG HUG!!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

While your wedding planning is over, you will have plenty of post-wedding projects to look forward too, trust me!!!

It's been 6 months & I am still post-wedding busy! You'll have to go through all of your photographers pictures, picking out which ones you may want to put in the house & give to family, then you'll have thank you cards to do, wedding albums to put together, oh and let's not forget all of the paperwork you have to look forward to with your name change!

I'm telling you, you think its over, but it's just begun! So take a breath now, relax and then prepare yourself for the other stuff thats coming!smile124.gif

I'm sure you'll be fine though. Anytime you feel a little blue, just think about how all your hard work paid off since you had a wonderful wedding & how much of a great time your guests had. Then think of all thats ahead of you as husband & wife. Hopefully that will make you smile a bit.smile03.gif

Link to comment
Share on other sites

post wedding blues is pretty common. I experienced the opposite. I was so happy that it was behind us & a great memory. it was a relief to not have the wedding to plan.

 

But, i was just as busy with the post-wedding projects of making photobooks & editing my wedding video.

 

I was looking forward to being done planning the wedding so I could move on to new things. I started learning photography and I've enjoyed that a lot more than wedding planning. If I didn't start something new, I probably would have felt an emptiness. You get used to being so busy with a project. so why not start something new? it's a great time to start working on making christmas presents.

 

once your pro pics come back you will be busy!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I feel the same way Trish! Now that its over, I feel like I don't know what to do. I was always so busy with the details of the wedding, and silly as this may sound, I miss it!! I know our life is just beginning, and we will make other wonderful memories, but the wedding was so much fun, and now its all over sad.gif

we did have lots of fun today shopping though, haha!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

 Share


  • Best Destination Wedding Sponsors



    Facebook Pinterest Google+ Twitter
  • Posts

    • The two people who matters the most in this situation? You and your partner. It is nice to get an outside opinion but if you have too much of it? It will get messy! I am replying you my response after that has happened to me with my wedding. Although it is quite hard, do not think of the negative opinions. The people who will turn up to your wedding? You will always cherish them even more! That is what has happened with me because my friendship with the people who attended my wedding has improved so much more that I know I can rely on them and they can rely on me. It is disappointing that people will not attend your wedding but it is their loss, not yours. At the end of the day, when they see pictures and videos of your big day they will definitely regret missing out on such event. I am waiting to deal with the aftermath of my wedding from my so called friends, if they say anything they will get an earful! Happy planning, your big day will be worth it! Keep us up to date!
    • PhotoBook Press specializes in the highest quality custom design and printing services, turning your favorite moments into works of art. We can transform your memories into custom pieces that speak volumes and will last a lifetime. We have a wide selection of template designs to allow you to select the right one that matches your preferences. You can personalize your wall, Christmas cards, or store your precious moments in softbook covers. Tell your story in whichever way you prefer. Work with Photobook Press today and enjoy up to 25% off. Visit PhotoBook Press custom design for personalized photo book, custom photo calendar, and custom printed wall art.
    • Wow, I cannot believe it's been over a year since I last posted! Better keep everyone up to date as everything ended up positive in the end! So, let's start with the situation with W. From my previous post, I have serious consideration removing him from the groomsmen because of the hurtful things he has said to me. Not too after my second post, I asked him once again whether he wants to be part of the groomsmen. The response was around the lines of "I need more solid information". This was before the restriction were lifted. Then he said it was down to finances yet again, even though he said he could have made it but because of what A said, W didn't commit no more. As W was being difficult, I decided to drop him as a groomsmen altogether and replaced him with someone else. Plan B was already in motion and tbh, I wish I did this first to avoid any hassle. Everyone who got invited in plan B all committed themselves to the wedding!  The situation with A is this. I was feeling sad that I was losing this friendship and that spark with him was gone. By the time it was gone, A was "ready" to meet up with me to discuss life and the wedding. When I said I lost spark with him, I really did. I knew that he was ready to meet up with me because it was convenient for him. For example, he wanted to meet up with me because he was driving past my house or was in the area visiting his relative. If he was not doing those things he would not want to meet up with me. Needless to say, every time he kept asking, I just said I was busy. I think deep down something was not right between me and A but he does not want to acknowledge it. I know that W had FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) because that's what he is like. Around the end of last year, rather than messaging me about the DW he went behind my back and asked my SO. He was scared of asking me because he knows if he asked me, I would literally get angry at him. He's nosey and was happy enough to be part of the groomsmen but he listened to A. W didn't asked once but twice to mg SO. My SO just said that she was busy and should ask me about the wedding, not her. W did messagee but not about the wedding plans. I felt this was a sly move by his part. If anything not having A and W there was a blessing in disguise. I met up with the other 4 groomsmen over one weekend and it turns out it was the most fun we all have had for a while. It was as if we continued from the previous conversations in the past as if nothing has changed. I am so glad and proud of this group of groomsmen and glad the other 2 dropped out. The suit fitting went really well and we hung out again to see whether the suits altered fitted or not.  Unfortunately my SO UK group, 5 out of 6 declined the invite. Only 1 accepted it. The other 5 had reasons ranging from good ones to poorer ones 😅 As long one of them turned up then it was good enough for us. My SO's bridesmaids also were amazing. No problems caused whatsoever and they were really excited that our wedding was abroad too! To make things work out before our DW, myself and SO planned out 2 weekends for both groomsmen and bridesmaids to hang out before the DW. We did this so we would not encounter any awkwardness for the first time in DW. Lo and behold, everyone got to know each other and we really are happy that the wedding party weekend went smoothly. I will keep this ambiguous because I do not want A and his group finding out. I got married to my SO this year. What time and month? I will leave this intentionally blank. The wedding itself was everything we have expected. The wedding planner was amazing. The photographer was also amazing too, so glad we went for him. The sneak peak photos are absolutely great, couldn't imagine that the photos turned out like that. The good itself was okay could be better but could be worse. The first dance went relatively well although my SO managed to cock up s move which only I know hahahaha. The wedding ceremony itself went really quickly. I was a bag of nerves to which one of the groomsmen bought the groomsmen a shot each to calm everyone down. It did calm me down for a little bit but the nerves started again with the speeches. I got emotional throughout the speeches. I was not expecting the tear up with the best man speech at all. My speech was meant for my SO but for some reason everyone in the room also cried as well 😂 The all night dancing and fun was the best bit. When every serious part was done, I was able to stop being nervous! The fun went through the whole night and I can see everyone really enjoyed themselves. It was as if myself and SO correctly guess that lockdown restrictions would end. Everyone was thankful that they managed to take part in the DW because they all have been stranded in the country for 3 years! Do I regret having a DW? Hell no! Although it was a smaller party everything was all under control. Everyone had a great time!  More information about my UK group. Some of them congratulated us which was nice to hear. Those congratulated us, I can keep contact. They knew it was difficult coming to DW. At least they are mature enough to say something about it and they did not get the invite. On the other hand, A and W kept constantly monitoring my account for updates along with my SO. It got to the point that W really FOMO that he I followed our stories/posts. A on the other hand is completely out of order. He was invited to DW but made it really uncomfortable to me that he was not happy with DW. During that week, he went on holiday to Spain. I get that Spain is much more cheaper than my DW but it still is annoying. A also said before that he has a few weddings to attend during our DW month. He has not attended any weddings which makes me think that he has lied to me. A and W has lied to me saying it was costly for them to come to my DW. They have both bought PlayStation 5 and went to many designer outlets. If they are so stumped on money why go and buy things? It just shows that they are not good friends at all. Overall good DW. I do not regret it one bit because I know if I did it in the UK, the experience will be a lot different. The UK definitely not as scenic as my DW! 🤣    
    • Hi ! Myself and partner got engaged 7 months ago and we quite quickly asked our friends who we wanted in our wedding party (e.g bridesmaids, MOH and best men etc) who all agreed. After searching many English venues we have decided that we want to marry abroad, our dream is Mexico. We have been and priced this up today and we are incredibly happy. So we have put this forward to our friends and family who we really want there and now we are facing issues. My MOH and my partners Best man are together with a child, they now will not come unless we change to Spain or Greece. My brother, his wife and nephew can only come in one set week which isn't the time we want to marry and also will not come to Mexico. And both our Grandmother's won't come to Mexico.   What do we do? Do we carry on and go to Mexico with the people who will come or do we change our dreams and go to Spain or Greece?  Thoughts please, I'm getting to the point where I don't even want to marry as I'm fed up of friends and family ruining our ideas and dreams with their opinions. 
    • What purpose does a ring actually have? I think they look nice, but to me, wearing a ring doesn’t mean a damn thing. I’m engaged. I’m in a happy, healthy and strong relationship. And to be fully honest if you are ever in a relationship that you’d be willing to risk because of the price of an engagement ring, your partner could do better.
  • Topics

×
×
  • Create New...