I wouldn't be surprised if this has happened to everyone of us BDW brides. I think it's just horrible that people cannot respond. We were having just our immediate families, which came to only 11 of us. One, of my many cousins, told my mother that he and his wife would really like to go, so we decided to go ahead and send them all an invitation, knowing that the majority of them would not come, being the weekend before Christmas and a lot of them having kids with no passports, etc. Anyway, we went out and got some invitations and sent them out to 10 different families. In addition, I sent personal emails explaining what we were doing, certain info about flights and which ariport to fly into, etc. We were given an awesome room rate at the hotel ($119/night) and I just wanted them to know the facts before making their decision. I only heard from 3 of the 10 that they could not make it. Now, I was starting to fume because not only have they received a personal email but an invitation, as well. I never expected anyone to come, but I thought they could have at least responded to the email with a congratulations or something. One day I was on Facebook and saw that 4 of the 7 that had not responded yet, were all communicating on Facebook, so I wrote by my name "what is up with my relatives that are always on the computer but can't respond to personal emails". Immediately, 2 people contacted me wanting to know what they had done. Unfortunately, they were 2 of the ones that had already responded. After a couple of hours, I felt badly for doing that, so I went in and deleted it. Yesterday, I received 2 chain letters/ jokes, etc. emails from the cousin that said they wanted to go, but still no response to the personal email I sent nor my invitation, so, I went back and found my email and forwarded it to her asking if she had seen this email and that I was thinking she might not have seen it since she never responded. Well, within 10 minutes she called and said that she and her husband were going. I was just shocked because they had to pay a little over $1,000 for the two of them - just for their airfare.
Sorry ladies, for this being so long - but not responding or rsvp'ing is just a pet peeve of mine. Keep in mind, that the point was NOT to pressure anyone into coming (you wouldn't want someone there that didn't want to come), but the point was - why can't they respond to something personal when they are on the computer on a daily basis
So, as you can see, it's happening to a lot of us.