MIL vent and ???'s (sorry really long)

[tob1kanobe]

So about one week after we got engaged my MIL went out and bought her dress. I know its great that she is excited but A) at that point we hadnt decided where or when we were getting married technically she should have waited for my mom to buy her dress or indicate what she was going to wear. So now I have my MIL in Cabo wearing a halter dress with hankerchief (sp*) bottom - top of it is supposedly black with cream, seafoam (vomit), and peach bottom. My mom is overweight and I want her to feel great so i feel like i should let her get whatever she wants - so now my pics are gonna be slightly spastic. Do I photoshop them out later or keep those pictures in black/white or sepia?

 

My only Maid of Honor informed me that she wanted to use a dress from another wedding she is in this summer for my wedding. Too bad the color is totally wrong - I put my foot down and said that it wont work - (I will find a dress that she can wear again and add a broach or ribbon or something and makes sure that it is cheap - no bridesmaidy dress) but I feel awful.

 

And my Fiance is using his father for his best man and thinks i am being picky because I want their suits to at least coordinate if not match....ARGH!!!

 

I am going to have the wedding color schmorgasboard from hell....

 

So ladies - honestly --- am I being a bitchy bride or what

[MikkiStreak]

No, because the photography is the excuse you can use to encourage them to change. Think about how many family photos were taken when they were younger and everyone needs to be similarly dressed. Same rule applies here--- And if they are wearing suits instead of tuxes, they should be grateful they get to dress so casually and be willing to coorindate/match with the colors.

 

I think it's a good idea to keep the bright colored attire in the B/W or sepia photos. Get one color, just in case it doesn't look too bad, but you could always give them the color and keep the B/W for yourself.

[TammyB]

lol, well to be honest I'm not a good one to judge. I could give a rats @$$ what everyone is wearing to our wedding. As long as it's not a swim suit or jean shorts, I'll be ok with it. I do however want to say that your BM should wear a color that you want..

[*JillD*]

I don't think your being a bad bride, you want nice pictures, thats not a bad thing. I am actually thinking of calling my dad & brother and telling them they should wear khaki pants and white shirts, lol! Because I know we're going to have a lot of family pictures and even though they're not in the wedding, I want the family pictures to look good!

[PaulaV]

This is your wedding and I think you have the right to ask for them to wear a certain style, colour, etc.

 

Suggest the outfit your MIL picked out would be more appropriate for a night out or a luncheon the day after the wedding and tell her what the 'dress code' is going to be.

 

 

Don't feel awful about your MOH's dress. She is your only one and she should understand...as should your FI.

 

Easier said than done I am sure...

[TATrisha]

I'm just blown away that your BM actually asked if she could wear her dress from someone elses wedding. It just seems so weird to me! She could wear it if she was just attending the wedding... but standing up. Odd.

[tob1kanobe]

My attitude is this - they all know that i am a total freak when it comes to how things look - i was an art major and photography major and now do design and color etc are my things --- i just think that while I want them all to love what they wear and would never be totally crazy and pick all of their outfits, i would have liked the option of saying at least a color range to stick to. blah...the MIL is driving me crazy anyway....so it goes...i even told her when she first called me to tell me that she bought a dress (she had already bought it and it was too late) that i didnt care as long as it wasn't floor length and white and this is what she said "on no honey, i don't want to wear a floor length gown" hello...YOU CANT WEAR WHITE UNLESS ITS BEEN REQUESTED BY THE BRIDE YOU CRAZY BIOTCH!!!!

 

(holy venting this morning --- sorry ladies i know its early)

[TammyB]

Toby, I understand completely you should have your wedding how you want it. I think Sarah is having an all white wedding and has requested everyone try to wear white, I think it's going to look really good in her photos. I don't think your MIL, your parents or your attendents should buy something without you knowing about it. They all should know it's important to you.

[MelissaH]

I don't think you're being a bad bride at all...they're your pictures and I'm sure you're paying a lot of money for them and you want them to look great!

[Christine]

Toby can you compromise with your MIL and ask her to wear the dress to another wedding event like the welcome dinner or something.

As for your BM that is just plain rude, why would she want to wear a dress from someone elses wedding, I think you should try to find a cute dress she can wear again, but one that fits the style and colors of your wedding.

Your FI and his Father should be wearing something simliar, end of story.