Planned Cocktail Hour for First Night? Is this necessary?
Posted 10 August 2008 - 11:13 AM
On one hand, I'm thinking, maybe she's right - it would be cool to have a place for everyone to go that's just for our guests - for like an hour. But on the other hand, I'm thinking, why should she put out the money if she's putting so much out for the reception.
But she feels really strongly that the guests should be entertained and have things to do, since they put all this money out to be there already.
What is everyone doing on the first night that most of the guests will be there? What are your thoughts on this situation? Should I just have the cocktail party, since my mom wants to pay for it anyway?
Posted 10 August 2008 - 11:19 AM
Posted 10 August 2008 - 11:23 AM
but on the other hand as someone who has been a guest at a bunch of DW's - you really want some time for yourself to just relax - i would suggest being careful not to 'overplan' for your guests and make them feel obligated.
people are on vacation too KWIM?
Posted 10 August 2008 - 11:25 AM
Pro: Cocktails are fun
Pro: It's nice to visit with people in a private atmosphere
Pro: People will be entertained
Con: You are having a welcome party the next day and don't want to make guests feel like they don't have time to themselves... especially after they fly in and may be exhausted. They are here for your wedding but it's also a vacation for them.
Con: I looked up your resort and it is awesome.. people are going to have problem finding free ways to entertain themselves!!
So, in my extensive research here (jk!) I would say that it's not necessary. If your mom wants to do something for entertainment for the guests, maybe put together an excursion that people can do if they want to. Maybe go to Dunns River or a Rum tour or something.
Posted 10 August 2008 - 05:28 PM
My mom actually just called me to tell me that maybe it isn't such a great idea to have a planned cocktail party. But i do think that on the "itinerary" that we're putting in everyone's OOT bags, we can put that we're hanging out at such and such bar from such and such time, so after you're all unpacked, please feel free to stop by and have a drink... this will make people not feel obligated, but if some people are like, "hmmm, what should we do now?" it will give them an option... right?
Also, I told my mom that i think that the hotel won't be so crowded anyway (we're still technically going to be there in off-peak season) so with a wedding crowd of 80 people, we'll pretty much take over the place so privacy issue won't be a big deal, I doubt...
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