| Originally Posted by kevsgirl |
Etiquette is that vendors are supposed to be fed/offered a meal, but they usually take their meals somewhere else when they're on a break. They're meant to have at least one break too, even if they're playing during the reception.
It's a bit more difficult for those who are just playing for an hour during the ceremony.
Here's what we're doing:
3:30 ceremony - 4pm cocktail hour - 7pm dinner
Photographer: 2:45-6.15 - I invited her to stay for dinner, even though she'll be done almost an hour before. She said yes, she'd love to! So i'm glad for that.
Mariachis: playing during cocktail hour for 1 hour from 4-5pm - I expect them to help themselves to the hors d'oeuvres and have a drink on us. Want them to be happy and hydrated!
That's it. No more vendors.
Oh - I completely forgot our minister. I will ask him in advance if he wants to have dinner with us. If not, I"ll ask him to come up for some hors d'oeuvres.
For our reception, we have to pay about $100 per extra plate over 20 people...and having our vendors to dinner would put us over 20 people...
So I'm not sure what to do b/c paying for all our vendors to have dinner would be super expensive!
Maybe, since the photog is supposed to leave before we start dinner, I can just tell him to help himself to the appies and booze during the cocktail hour (I guess he can take a break for a few mins!:-))
I think we'll do this with the musicians for the ceremony and cocktail hour as well...
I don't mind paying for dinner for the DJ since he's there for four hours!
Does this sound okay...?
(And are you tipping your photog...? I've read some of the etiquette postings that you don't tip the photog if he's the owner...and that's the case with ours...)