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#1171 ktrant

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    Posted 11 October 2010 - 09:48 AM

    Well our plan was to keep it just between us but by accident my husband mentioned it to his parents and they were livid that we were going to do this without them or my parents. We didn't think it was a big deal but to them it was. So we ended up having to invite his parents, his sister, my parents and my sister. I was worried that it would affect my wedding day but it didn't. We didn't act any differently once we were married by the JP. We got our marriage certificate in and went and ordered a couple of extra copies so that we could take one w/us to Mexico so that we could get the extra goodies from our honeymoon package.

     

    Nothing compares to the feeling of getting your hair and make-up done, putting on your wedding dress, having your dad (or whomever) walk you down the aisle and then hearing "here comes the bride" and then seeing your future husband waiting for you. It's PRICELESS!

     
     

    Originally Posted by adales 

    I am also debating getting married at the courthouse beforehand.  I think that we are going to because I don't want to have to worry about dealing with Mexico if for some reason we need our original marriage certificate.  Plus this way we dont have to get our blood drawn and all of that stuff.  My only question is... Did it make the ceremony feel less special because you were technically already married?  The only people we plan on telling are our parents if we do decide to do it beforehand.





    #1172 ktrant

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      Posted 11 October 2010 - 09:49 AM

      If I'm not mistaken, that is included in the civil ceremony.

       

      Originally Posted by jszy10 

      We discussed that option and decided to go ahead with everything that goes along with being married in Mexico.  The only thing I'm starting to worry about now is that I want the exchange of the rings and the "you may kiss the bride" part.  I think I would be upset if we didn't do some of the traditional things.





      #1173 sxcT

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        Posted 11 October 2010 - 10:18 AM

        So what if it is a symbolic ceremony?  What usually goes down?  Or do we get to decide what we want said/done?

         

        We will be doing the paperwork before we go so I want to make sure I understand what goes on.  I heard you still sign a paper during the ceremony.  What is being signed?  We will not be telling anyone except parents and sisters that we are getting married beforehand.  So I want it to be official as possible. 

         

         

         

        And thanks for all the responses to my previous post ladies.  I really appreciate it. 



        #1174 Steph3486

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          Posted 11 October 2010 - 02:46 PM


          We exchanged rings, just not with the vows. and we kissed. :-)

          We discussed that option and decided to go ahead with everything that goes along with being married in Mexico.  The only thing I'm starting to worry about now is that I want the exchange of the rings and the "you may kiss the bride" part.  I think I would be upset if we didn't do some of the traditional things.





          #1175 Steph3486

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            Posted 11 October 2010 - 02:49 PM


            We debated a lot but went with the civil ceremony because I felt like it'd take away from the day if we were already married. The WC leaves a copy of the wedding certificate on your bed after the wedding, so you actually fly home with the originals. I had NO trouble with that part, in fact, the social security office and our DMV had someone bilingual who read through it without providing the translation. I'd get the translation for your bank, credit cards, etc though- it makes it a lot easier.
             

            Originally Posted by adales 

            I am also debating getting married at the courthouse beforehand.  I think that we are going to because I don't want to have to worry about dealing with Mexico if for some reason we need our original marriage certificate.  Plus this way we dont have to get our blood drawn and all of that stuff.  My only question is... Did it make the ceremony feel less special because you were technically already married?  The only people we plan on telling are our parents if we do decide to do it beforehand.





            #1176 angelov321

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              Posted 11 October 2010 - 05:21 PM

              You can also opt to have a symbolic wedding and then make it "official" when you get back home. I spoke to Dulce and Yesenia (in Miami) about this and they both verified that this is possible. Ive been debating for a while whether we should do a symbolic or civil ceremony and the fact that we can have a symbolic wedding and then make it official when we get back makes the decision a little easier. :)



              #1177 skadow

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                Posted 11 October 2010 - 05:42 PM

                Has anyone been provide with a list of scripts and types of ceromonies they offer?  It would be awsome if you could just pick one that fits you best. Seems a little off that this part is causing people so much confussion when this is really the main reason most people are going their...to get married

                 

                I want a Mayan Ceromony

                 

                My FI wants a traditional Ceromony but I don't think he knows what he means by that. I asked what he would want included in the ceromony, and his answere was "You know...like vows and that kind of stuff"



                #1178 skadow

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                  Posted 11 October 2010 - 05:43 PM

                  Also....I emailed Wilma yesturday asking her if she could provide me with a list of options and scripts. Shas hasnt gotten back to me yet. I'll post when she does.



                  #1179 angelov321

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                    Posted 11 October 2010 - 06:51 PM

                    This is what Wilma sent me for a civil ceremony:

                     

                    **This is the judge’s reading**

                     

                    CIVIL MARRIAGE

                     

                    In the RivieraMaya,

                    Municipalityof Solidaridad

                    State of Quintana RooMexico

                    We are here to celebrate the civil marriage of

                    ____________and_____________

                    You are both (American or British)citizens.

                     

                    In this special occasion

                    You should recall

                    The moments when you first met

                    And all the events that make you come to this place

                    At this time.

                     

                    You are both entering in to a union

                    That is the most close and intimate one

                    It is the most precious relationship between two people.

                     

                    From today on,

                    your life will be greatly affected,

                    You are trusting one to another

                    Your success and happiness of your future being together.

                     

                    To continue whit this ceremony

                    I will say some vows

                    Taken from a letter

                    Written by a Mexican philosopher in the last century

                    Mr.Melchor Ocampo

                    HE WROTE THAT:

                    MARRIED PEOPLE

                    SHOULD BE, AND WILL BE,

                    SACRED ONE TO EACH OTHER,

                    MORE THAN TO THEM SELVES.

                     

                    MAN AND WOMEN

                    HAVE THE SAME RIGHTS

                    BUT THEIR RESPECTIVE OBLIGATIONS.

                    EACH ONE SHOULD HAVE

                    AND WILL HAVE:

                    RESPECT,FIDELITY, TRUST, TENDERNESS AND LOVE.

                     

                    BOTH OF YOU SHOULD BE AWARE

                    ON THE GREAT RESPONSBILITY

                    OF BEING PARENTS OF FAMILY,

                    BECAUSE YOU SHOULD PROVIDE YOUR CHILDREN WITH: ATTENTION, GOOD EXAMPLE, EDUCATION, RESPECT, FOOD AND LOVE

                    THEY SHOULD SEE IN YOU

                    A WORTHY EXAMPLE TO FOLLOW DURING THE REST OF THEIR EXISTENCE.

                     

                    The very best marriages

                    Are made, by the best of friends

                    Who face together

                    Hand in hand

                    The good and the bad

                    That life sends

                     

                    They aren’t afraid to share

                    The deepest feelings of they hearts

                    And respect each other’s needs

                    To sometime spend

                    Time apart

                     

                    They support each other faithfully

                    When troubles come their way

                    They don’t blame haste or anger

                    But show love

                    In what they say

                     

                    They make marriage like true friendship

                    Full of things show they care

                    And they find a lot of happiness

                    In all the love they share.

                     

                    For all this reasons

                    And in presence of your witnesses

                    I ask you

                     

                    ____________

                    Do you take this woman

                    To be your lawful wedded wife

                    To live together in the ordinances and the state of matrimony

                    To honor and love her

                    Trough sickness and in health,

                    And keep you only in to her

                    For the rest of your life ?

                     

                    ____________

                    Do you take this man

                    To be your lawful wedded husband

                    To live together in the ordinances and the state of matrimony

                    To honor and love him

                    Trough sickness and in health,

                    And keep you only in to him

                    For the rest of your life ?

                     

                    ***Rings***

                    ***Own Vows*** OPTIONAL

                     

                    Now, in this significant moment

                    You will interchange your wedding rings

                     

                    **first you __________ and then you ____________

                     

                    Now, to legalize your marriage

                    We will sign the documents:

                     

                    ***Bride & Groom sign documents**

                    ***Witnesses sign documents***

                     

                     

                    ***Sand Ceremony***  OPTIONAL

                     

                     

                    _________ and _________

                    If there is anything you can remember from this marriage ceremony

                    Is that, it was love that brought you here today

                    It is love which can make it a glorious union

                    And it is by love that your marriage shall endure.

                     

                    So, on behalf of the law

                    And the society

                    With the authority granted to me

                     By the municipalityof Solidaridad,

                    In this beautiful paradise of the RivieraMaya,

                    I pronounce you

                    Husband and wife

                    Congratulations and you may kiss the bride.



                    #1180 jszy10

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                      Posted 12 October 2010 - 05:17 AM

                      Thank you!!! That sounds great to me!  I feel much better now :o)






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