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Well our plan was to keep it just between us but by accident my husband mentioned it to his parents and they were livid that we were going to do this without them or my parents. We didn't think it was a big deal but to them it was. So we ended up having to invite his parents, his sister, my parents and my sister. I was worried that it would affect my wedding day but it didn't. We didn't act any differently once we were married by the JP. We got our marriage certificate in and went and ordered a couple of extra copies so that we could take one w/us to Mexico so that we could get the extra goodies from our honeymoon package.

 

Nothing compares to the feeling of getting your hair and make-up done, putting on your wedding dress, having your dad (or whomever) walk you down the aisle and then hearing "here comes the bride" and then seeing your future husband waiting for you. It's PRICELESS!

 
 

Originally Posted by adales View Post

I am also debating getting married at the courthouse beforehand.  I think that we are going to because I don't want to have to worry about dealing with Mexico if for some reason we need our original marriage certificate.  Plus this way we dont have to get our blood drawn and all of that stuff.  My only question is... Did it make the ceremony feel less special because you were technically already married?  The only people we plan on telling are our parents if we do decide to do it beforehand.



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If I'm not mistaken, that is included in the civil ceremony.

 

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We discussed that option and decided to go ahead with everything that goes along with being married in Mexico.  The only thing I'm starting to worry about now is that I want the exchange of the rings and the "you may kiss the bride" part.  I think I would be upset if we didn't do some of the traditional things.



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So what if it is a symbolic ceremony?  What usually goes down?  Or do we get to decide what we want said/done?

 

We will be doing the paperwork before we go so I want to make sure I understand what goes on.  I heard you still sign a paper during the ceremony.  What is being signed?  We will not be telling anyone except parents and sisters that we are getting married beforehand.  So I want it to be official as possible. 

 

 

 

And thanks for all the responses to my previous post ladies.  I really appreciate it. 

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We exchanged rings, just not with the vows. and we kissed. :-)untitled.JPG
 

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We discussed that option and decided to go ahead with everything that goes along with being married in Mexico.  The only thing I'm starting to worry about now is that I want the exchange of the rings and the "you may kiss the bride" part.  I think I would be upset if we didn't do some of the traditional things.



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We debated a lot but went with the civil ceremony because I felt like it'd take away from the day if we were already married. The WC leaves a copy of the wedding certificate on your bed after the wedding, so you actually fly home with the originals. I had NO trouble with that part, in fact, the social security office and our DMV had someone bilingual who read through it without providing the translation. I'd get the translation for your bank, credit cards, etc though- it makes it a lot easier.
 

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I am also debating getting married at the courthouse beforehand.  I think that we are going to because I don't want to have to worry about dealing with Mexico if for some reason we need our original marriage certificate.  Plus this way we dont have to get our blood drawn and all of that stuff.  My only question is... Did it make the ceremony feel less special because you were technically already married?  The only people we plan on telling are our parents if we do decide to do it beforehand.



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You can also opt to have a symbolic wedding and then make it "official" when you get back home. I spoke to Dulce and Yesenia (in Miami) about this and they both verified that this is possible. Ive been debating for a while whether we should do a symbolic or civil ceremony and the fact that we can have a symbolic wedding and then make it official when we get back makes the decision a little easier. :)

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Has anyone been provide with a list of scripts and types of ceromonies they offer?  It would be awsome if you could just pick one that fits you best. Seems a little off that this part is causing people so much confussion when this is really the main reason most people are going their...to get married

 

I want a Mayan Ceromony

 

My FI wants a traditional Ceromony but I don't think he knows what he means by that. I asked what he would want included in the ceromony, and his answere was "You know...like vows and that kind of stuff"

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Also....I emailed Wilma yesturday asking her if she could provide me with a list of options and scripts. Shas hasnt gotten back to me yet. I'll post when she does.

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This is what Wilma sent me for a civil ceremony:

 

**This is the judgeâ€s reading**

 

CIVIL MARRIAGE

 

In the RivieraMaya,

Municipalityof Solidaridad

State of Quintana RooMexico

We are here to celebrate the civil marriage of

____________and_____________

You are both (American or British)citizens.

 

In this special occasion

You should recall

The moments when you first met

And all the events that make you come to this place

At this time.

 

You are both entering in to a union

That is the most close and intimate one

It is the most precious relationship between two people.

 

From today on,

your life will be greatly affected,

You are trusting one to another

Your success and happiness of your future being together.

 

To continue whit this ceremony

I will say some vows

Taken from a letter

Written by a Mexican philosopher in the last century

Mr.Melchor Ocampo

HE WROTE THAT:

MARRIED PEOPLE

SHOULD BE, AND WILL BE,

SACRED ONE TO EACH OTHER,

MORE THAN TO THEM SELVES.

 

MAN AND WOMEN

HAVE THE SAME RIGHTS

BUT THEIR RESPECTIVE OBLIGATIONS.

EACH ONE SHOULD HAVE

AND WILL HAVE:

RESPECT,FIDELITY, TRUST, TENDERNESS AND LOVE.

 

BOTH OF YOU SHOULD BE AWARE

ON THE GREAT RESPONSBILITY

OF BEING PARENTS OF FAMILY,

BECAUSE YOU SHOULD PROVIDE YOUR CHILDREN WITH: ATTENTION, GOOD EXAMPLE, EDUCATION, RESPECT, FOOD AND LOVE

THEY SHOULD SEE IN YOU

A WORTHY EXAMPLE TO FOLLOW DURING THE REST OF THEIR EXISTENCE.

 

The very best marriages

Are made, by the best of friends

Who face together

Hand in hand

The good and the bad

That life sends

 

They arenâ€t afraid to share

The deepest feelings of they hearts

And respect each otherâ€s needs

To sometime spend

Time apart

 

They support each other faithfully

When troubles come their way

They donâ€t blame haste or anger

But show love

In what they say

 

They make marriage like true friendship

Full of things show they care

And they find a lot of happiness

In all the love they share.

 

For all this reasons

And in presence of your witnesses

I ask you

 

____________

Do you take this woman

To be your lawful wedded wife

To live together in the ordinances and the state of matrimony

To honor and love her

Trough sickness and in health,

And keep you only in to her

For the rest of your life huh.gif?

 

____________

Do you take this man

To be your lawful wedded husband

To live together in the ordinances and the state of matrimony

To honor and love him

Trough sickness and in health,

And keep you only in to him

For the rest of your life huh.gif?

 

***Rings***

***Own Vows*** OPTIONAL

 

Now, in this significant moment

You will interchange your wedding rings

 

**first you __________ and then you ____________

 

Now, to legalize your marriage

We will sign the documents:

 

***Bride & Groom sign documents**

***Witnesses sign documents***

 

 

***Sand Ceremony***  OPTIONAL

 

 

_________ and _________

If there is anything you can remember from this marriage ceremony

Is that, it was love that brought you here today

It is love which can make it a glorious union

And it is by love that your marriage shall endure.

 

So, on behalf of the law

And the society

With the authority granted to me

 By the municipalityof Solidaridad,

In this beautiful paradise of the RivieraMaya,

I pronounce you

Husband and wife

Congratulations and you may kiss the bride.

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