Like most of the brides on here I am unsure how I feel about a shower/bachlorette function. My FI and I are both military, and we don't live in the same province as my family, as well alot of my close friends are spread throughout all of Canada as such is the nature of our job. So I know that if a shower was thrown it would mainly only be extended family mbrs as I am sure most of my friends wouldn't travel to attend. We are having a small wedding with just my parents and our MOH and BM, and like a previous bride said I have always thought it taboo and tacky to invite people to a shower who are not invited to the wedding. But all that being said, I feel as though I would be missing out on the whole "wedding" experince by not having one. We plan to have 3 small AHR, one for friends at our house and then one at each of our parents which will mainly be just for family.