asiamarie1

Congrats and Happy Planning! You will definitely find this site and the brides helpful!!!

Do you mind telling me how you did it? I have tried and tried and just can't seem to take weight off..I was dieting, exercising, and still nothing! I got so frustrated and disappointed I stopped doing all of it. Now I have a year and three months before the wedding and I really am not happy with my size. Any words of advice would help.
 

Originally Posted by MichCraw 

Don't be discouraged you are not the only one in that boat ! lol .. I started off with a size 22 dress!! Eekkkkk ... ( not necessarily just because of my boobs though!! ) ... Just seeing that number motivated me enough to start losing the weight... I didn't think i'd lose this much honestly ... but once you start getting compliments and looking good in your clothes .. the encouragement is enough to make you want to continue... Something happened and so I didn't buy that original dress however I did buy another one ... in a size 14 and I still need alterations .. but it's only going to look better!!! ( However, where did my boobs go I don't know ... I think I lost 40 pounds just of boobies!!) grrrr ... oh well i'm healthier and I'm in the best shape of my entire life so it's worth it!

I think it depends on the resort. When I asked about it at our resort we were told we could have one long table....
 

Originally Posted by kellygrrrl 

does anyone know if it's possible for the resort to do one large table for a beach reception? I'm thinking we'll have closer to 15 guests, and I'd really like if everyone could be seated together, rather than at two (assumedly) silly-looking tables. : ) thoughts? I know there was a bride on here who did just that, but I think she coordinated through an outside rental company.

 

thanks!

I love the bags as well....

thanks for the information about the Michael's app...I have since downloaded it to my ipod .....

britb618- thanks for the review of your stay..it will be very helpful for us when we arrive at the Hard Rock, we are not having our Wedding there but we are staying a week for our honeymoon, and we will be palace members....thanks again

Welcome to the Forum and Congrats!!

Congrats and happy planning...You will find many useful information on this site...

They are both great dresses, but I like the white one just a little. Bit more! Tough choice...

Congrats to all the newly engaged couples!

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!!! Definitely let me know how you make out.....and wow 6 months...be for you know it, the day will be here....Congrats, by the way
 

Originally Posted by BarbieBrideU 

That is so sweet your son and grandson are giving you away!!

 

Unfourtunately I live in LA and she lives in Texas. So there have been a lot of emails, and texts going back and fourth between us. Last thing she had told me was that she bought it  Like i said I'm hoping she changes her mind down the road... We have 6 months.

 

 

The dress is definitely pretty. Did she purchase it already? If not maybe you can get her to try something else on while she is there trying that one on. Plus I think as the mother of the Bride she would want something more sleek! She would look gorgeous, sophistcated and elegant especially with the right accessories. I agree with stluciabound that she would look like she was going to the prom in this dress!! Good luck with everything.....The good thing for me is I am having my son and my grandson give me away!! At least that's what I am hoping for. My grandson isn't officially here yet but by the time I get married he will be 16 month old!!
 

Originally Posted by BarbieBrideU 

Thank you both!

 

asiamarie- I agree. Though I partially blame myself because I told her it was pretty. Which it is, for somebody in their 20s or 30s you are totally right. She's so fickle though I am hoping she tries it on again in a couple months and decides she doesn't want it anymore.
 

stluciaboud- Thank you for agreeing. She was making me feel like I was crazy. She kept saying "yours is mermaid, mine is a-line!" ummm... if that's the only difference other than the color, there's a problem! I will just have to put my foot down.
 

 

 

Good for you for standing up for not only youself but your FI as well!! Way to go!!!

Originally Posted by stluciabound 

I DID IT I DID IT I DID IT!!!! Last night I finally told my FI that I had enough and we went over to confront his family once and for all!!! His dad ended up not being home so we had a sit down with his mother. At first he wanted to go alone, but I went with my gut and insisted on being there so they couldn't manipulate him anymore. Thank goodness I did. For the first time ever she actually displayed her aggressiveness in front of me so I could address it, rather than playing nice to my face and then guilt tripping him behind my back. I can't possibly replay a 3 hour conversation (yes it was that long ugh!), but I will try and hit the hight points. She basiclaly said that they (his side of the family) has been "left out" and that it's my fault for shutting them out and not coming around. I told her not to be confused why I don't want to be around them after everything they have done it should be no surprise. She went on and on about how weddings should be a "family affair" and how could we do this knowing they couldn't make it. I didn't let her get away with any of it. She just started to cry,which obviously is her weapon of choice with her kids when she doesn't have a valid point, fortunately after all the pain they have caused us her tears didn't mean a thing to me. That might sound harsh, but I just saw it as attempted further manipualtion. She then told me that she was glad that the rest of the family wasn't there because they would be so upset that I was "doing this to her". I shut that down too. I said, "nobody is doing anything to you,you are being selfish and dramatic". I then told her that as much as I never wanted to be a "Bridezilla" she has forced me to be blunt... I AM THE BRIDE,  IT IS MY DAY, AND NOOOO YOUR OPINION ULTIMATELY DOES NOT MATTER!!! She just started to cry again. I told her that I love her son, he loves me, and our day is no longer up for discussion. They can either get on board or get out of the way. She just cried and said that this is her son and she wants it to be a certain way. My favorite line of the night came next...I said  "look at your son's face... look at what you are doing to him... he is MY HUSBAND... I know you wouldn't let anyone come into YOUR home and mess with YOUR family, so hear me now... Don't MESS with MY HUSBAND,don't MESS with MY MARRIAGE, quit messing with my family, and quit messing with me. I then told her that "I run this hen house now so BACK OFF!!!" I honestly don't even know where that came from,but damn it felt good. She just froze. She had nothing. She just said, well I guess that will be true when you get married... and I said, NO that was true the day he put a ring on my finger, the rest is just a technicality. Your reign is over. Sorry. Oh my Jesus could you hear the crickets. In any event, after not letting her get away with any of her antics she once again started to cry, pulled me to the side and said that she loves me, I will always be part of the family, and that she is sorry. She admitted to guilting the rest of the family to the point that they were terrified to attend our wedding and that everything was her fault. With that his father came home. Oh God. He gets psychotic when he is stood up to so I thought... ok here comes the rest of the disaster. To my unbelieveable pleasant surprise, his mother opened with... "We need to start being more enthusiastic about their wedding and I now believe that the animosity in the family is because of me and my own guilt". Holy S***t!!! Did I just hear that right??? After 9 months of torture did I seriously just hear that??? She then asked me to email her additional trip info so that they may try again to come. Don't get me wrong, quite frankly after all they have put us through I was getting quite fond of the idea of them staying the hell home, but I am happy for him. I could tell for the first time he felt accepted by them. Pretty sad that that is what it took, but still I was happy for his sake. When we left he said, "thank you for doing that, I finally feel like I am able to get excited". A bittersweet triumph, but it felt so good. I DID IT!!!
 

I would definitely be interested in where you purchased the passport covers and tumblers as well and by the way I love the bags!!

Hey beachbride,

Have you checked to see if you can hire an outside Pastor/Minister? If so Pastor York was great in getting back to me with a day or two, let me know if he was available and then booked, with no deposit. His cost is 350.00 and the whatever the resort fee for outside vendors would be if they allow it. Let me know if you would like his information...

The dress style definitely is similar, and I think you are right it is your day and you should be able to say what goes! Too be honest I think that dress would be more suitable for younger woman, and I say that because I am a mother of a child old enough to get married! I would want to wear something shorter, cooler and definitely more sophisticated for myself. But that is just my opinion....

I love these they look amazing...great job!!!

Originally Posted by jszy10 

I bought all of my flowers from JoAnn's craft store.  I actually just happened to be there at the end of the season and found them all 75% off!!  That $20 actually got me enough lilies to make my AHR centerpieces too )

 

 

 

We found the other flowers from my centerpiece at Michael's.

 

 

By the way we have booked the Majestic. We decided regardless we needed to just go with our choice. I will definitely keep my fingers crossed for you, but I am sure you will have an amazing time and I can't wait to hear about it...
 

Originally Posted by aaronlori 

I'll be back early September, I will be sure to update you with the experience when I return. Fingers crossed for fun, sun, and no illness!
 

 

Definitely pick what you want, it's your wedding!! I chose fuschia and orange and am going to add maybe a little bit of sage in the flowers...

mrstgun...you amaze me every time I see your DIY projects. I never even no where to start and have so many things running through my head, I am not sure I will ever get it all together...I can't wait to see more and to see your pics after your wedding....It is going to be stunning...

Funny, cause the first dress is my favorite but I am having a hard time finding it around here...and the girls want to be able to try it on...However I am hoping maybe I might even be able to find a similar pattern and make them, well not me of course I can't sew...but one of my MOH's can and she is good!!! So we will see....As far as the resort I am not sure if they will let me alter it, I am going to ask though, now that you mentioned it...

As far as decorations I am going to keep them to a minimum. We are not having a private reception because we most likely will only have about 15-20 people. We will have one long table with us at the head of it. I was thinking about a runner down the center of the table, not sure of a color yet, maybe use like a bamboo runner. Then I actually bought for bottles. 2 in orange, 2 in fuschia and the had a small flip flop that hangs from the top. We are going to put sand and shells inside them and the just a couple gerber daisys...I wanted to alternate some kind of decoration with a candle or tealight in it. I think that will be about all I need. PLus we will have the chair sashes from the wedding to put on the chairs as well...

What about you...what are you planning on doing/
 

Originally Posted by RMBride2B 

Well, you know you could always have two You can use the bouquet that you create with the Real Touch flowers for when you walk down the aisle. Then use the ones the resort gives you as a toss bouquet. This is what I'm planning to do. Will the resort allow you to alter the bouquet that they'll be giving you, as far as colors? Because you could also use it as a floral arrangement for your alter/table during the ceremony.

 

Also, I LOVE the first dress the best
 

 

I understand the family thing, we have also had some negativity but we decided that the ones that want to be there will and the rest well that is their choice. But at least my parents are supportive and they will be there. I feel bad for my FI though because most likely there will be no one from his side. I am hoping that at least one of his friends comes, but not even sure about that. It's so disappointing to him, but he prepared himself for the NO's...I know that no matter what this day is our day and it will be about what we want! I am just thankful that my two best friends will be there and both will be my MOH's. The three of us have been friends for 33 years, and we have been through everything together. I would be more upset if one of them was unable to make it!!

Are plans are good. We have the resort booked and we will be staying there for 8 nights and then we will be goimg to another resort for 7 more nights. Same area...

Since we both have been married before me for over 17 years and had the traditional wedding, we both wanted a beach wedding. We love to travel and love the tropics..so it just made sense that we have a DW wedding..

Have you looked at or bought a dress yet? I have already done that..so the one I loved online and looked no further....No just taking a look to get an idea of what I want the two girls to wear...but have plenty of time for that....

Keep in touch, I love hearing about the planning......
 

Originally Posted by Branya2012 

We are in talks with a travel agent, but haven't decided the resort where we are staying yet. It is very exciting that it is now official!!

 

We are currently going through battles with unhappy family members more than we are planning. Actually, I guess we are just dealing with the unhappy family members because there is no way we are changing our minds about where we are getting married! People so easily forget that this day is about me and my fiancee, not about anyone else.

 

How are your plans coming along? Did you always know you wanted a destination wedding? Are you planning a honeymoon after the wedding?
 

 

Jwed12..I think your bouquet is absolutely beautiful and I agree with Aruba Bride I don't think it will look stupid for the girls ro carry just tiger lilleys

It amazes me how we as brides are considered selfish when we are having the wedding we want. Isn't that what it's supposed to be about, what the bride and groom want? Not what family wants. We are also paying for our wedding and in no way am I going to let any of the negativity I have been getting get me down!! It's hard but I am standing my ground on this......I have decided that I am not letting anyone ruin this for me, it's mine and my FI day and like someone stated before, the ones that want to be there will and the ones that don't well that's there problem. Plus they will be the ones to regret getting to be a part of something so wonderful.