Oh you poor thing! I'm sorry that you are having such a hard time! What a generous offer to pay for them too... wow! Two of my best friends and my brother & SIL aren't coming to our wedding (with 18 months notice!). And while I was disapointed, I understood that they have very young families, step kids with alternating schedules to consider, financial difficulties etc... I was very grateful that they told me up front. Here's what I have learned - some of the women who I considered more casual friends, have come through and have been amazing! Helping to organize, wanting to help on the day, offering to take an extra suitcase down with decorations etc. They have stepped up to the plate and become what I now call "true friends". As hard as it may be to 'let it go' with your old friends... I can only say, let it go and focus on the wonderful day you and your fiance are planning. It will be beautiful, special and memorable, and you may even find that you've have true and wonderful friends around you this whole time. Sadly, they are the ones who lose out in the situation....Good luck!