Maura

Quote: Originally Posted by nikkianddean Maura, where did you go to school? DC had the same brothel regulations in effect, so no sorority houses....Of course there were frat houses al over the place. I think they recently made suites in some of the newer dorms. oxford, ohio, good ol miami university. there were an abundance of frat houses, but not a single sorority "house" anywhere! our suite had a fireplace, a kitchen, and a guest bedroom for the field consultant and executive board office attached so it was really nice, but i wouldve like to have had a house that i couldve lived in.

Quote: Originally Posted by Kat81 My FI has a work visa that doesn't expire for like two years.. we don't have to fill out a form for a request to leave the country do we? ok, need some info to answer your question. first, are you getting legally married here in the US first? if YES, and his work visa is still valid at the time of your wedding, then no, you do not need to fill out any forms for advance permission to travel. he should travel with his visa as he would normally do otherwise. you will file all your documents with the government after you are legally married, so if you are getting married in mexico after your legal wedding, dont submit your legal docs until after you return from mexico to avoid any snafus. second, will the work visa still be valid at the time of your wedding? if NO, (you should be absolutely sure of the expiration date), then you will need to get married legally before the expiration date, and then YES, you WILL need to fill out the advance permission to travel form. ----- also, i have a whole bunch of documents our lawyer gave us about requirements for your interviews and such, so if anyone is interested, i will scan them and post. also, if you want me to send to you, you can PM me your email address and i will send. just let me know!

at my university, we didn't have sorority houses because of old ohio brothel laws. haha. so we had sorority suites instead, that were located in the first floors of several dorm buildings that were adjacent to each other. anyway, i used to live just above the DST suite!!!! i have an idea -- if you have your pin, take a photo and post it so we can see what yours looks like. i'll do mine when i get home.

nikki, what house were you in?

micky! we're glad to have you!

Quote: Originally Posted by katrina haha we do that to... pussycat dolls "dontcha" becomes "dontcha wish your girlfriend was hot like me, dontcha wish your girlfriend was a dphie!" hahahahaha i am dying laughing, that is too funny! i can just imagine you all doing a little dance to it too haha

does anybody else's sorority tell you to attach your pin to the underside of your dress for good luck on your wedding day? tri delt does, and when my best friend got married in 2006, i got the honor of putting her pin on her dress she is going to do the same for me in august, which i am so excited about.

Quote: Originally Posted by angitalia23 Yes candle pass...how fun! Did you gals ever do anything special in a candle pass when a someone got engaged...We did and I just always loved it..Ive always gotten excited about an engagements/weddings! ooooh we did this too. it was called a "candlelight"

i dunno about you gals, but my sorority friends and i still sing rush songs ocassionally haha... like one year for rush, our 2nd round song was "take me home tonight" and we changed the words to "go tri delt tonight" etc etc my FI just rolls his eyes at me when we go out with my sorority sisters, we're in a bar, and all of a sudden one of the songs comes on and we can't contain ourselves from singing the made up sorority lyrics haha

DONT READ TRIPADVISOR! that is my best advice. oh, and dont let family influence where you pick. pick whatever you and your fiance want. you should get lots of good ideas here!

Quote: Originally Posted by becks Okay, new word for my vocab, used by a colleague to describe a meeting: Moronothon ie., call my cell phone in about 45 minutes. I'm going to some moronothon on corporate governance. LOVE that. It's pretty much every single day at work... love that, and its the story of my life. i MUST start using that word. ok here is one of the gems off my personal list of stupid quotes that jose keeps: "that was the worst hurting bruise lasting ever." -said while i was sick, late at night when i was tired, 6 weeks after i had fallen in the bathtub and gotten a horrible bruise that just wouldnt heal. i MEANT to say that it was the longest lasting most painful bruise i ever had. go figure. sometimes i read my quote list and think how the hell did i get a masters degree in journalism? thank god i dont say stupid stuff like that everyday.

oh corey, you looked absolutely beautiful and radiant! i am crying looking at these, i cant wait to see more!!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Just Martha If this is directed at me, I already had/have a great groups of friends that I grew up with. And we all still help one another when we need it and keep in very close contact with one another. I dated a Sigma Chi and also a Lambda Chi, so I was always around fraternities and the sororities that were linked to those 2 frats. Still not my cup of tea...but I would definitely never say anything bad about them. no it wasnt directed at you -- i didnt have a strong core group of girlfriends from high school or that i grew up with because we moved when my parents got divorced. it was always hard for me in high school to make lasting friendships with very many girls because my high school was really clique-y. i have a couple friends from high school i keep in touch with, but i wouldnt say that i could depend on any of them (well maybe just one) if i really needed something. i always thought sororities were stupid and nothing id ever belong to. but i was pleasantly surprised that there was actually a sorority full of girls just like me. and like glenda, i got really into loving everything about it. rush was one of my favorite times of year. i never thought i would be a part of a sorority, ever. i always talked shit about sorority girls and how they were so fake (and dont get me wrong, some definitely are). but what i didnt know was that not all sororities are like the ones you see on tv. i had a number of friends in college who were "independents" (as they called themselves because they didnt go greek, and my campus was heavily greek). but the friends i made in my sorority are the ones who have ended up being my closest, lifelong friends. thats all i meant by that.

August brides, what have you done/what do you have left? I'm feeling like I am in list mode today. I am sure I'm leaving some important things off. I've got these booked/done: wedding website Resort room block Ceremony & reception location Dress bought (should arrive next week! paid in full already, only owe on alterations, god i hope i dont need much) Airfare taken care of Photographer Videographer STDs done and sent Pre-cana DONE! (just one more meeting with our priest to give him the precana certificate so he can sign off) Registered for gifts Booked and fully paid my flowers (destination wedding package--calla bouquet and bout only) Picked BM attire In progress: Formal invitations (we placed our order for proofs today! should have these ordered by next week) Menu basically picked everything just have to confirm picked wedding bands for both of us, just have to order them in april/may To Do: Book stylist for hair Need to pick a florist, and centerpieces Need a DJ figure out BM gifts make menus OOT bags find a gift for FI's parents (since theyre paying for our wedding)

Quote: Originally Posted by coreyphil Great job lady! They are beautiful --- I love the fonts! ...And, I'm so glad Jose's mom was impressed ... maybe it will help reduce some of his anxieties over what is considered "proper" to his mom's friends. Corey youre back!!!!! I've been anxiously awaiting to hear from you about your big day!!!!!

i should tell you also that i was anti-sorority and thought it was "not my thing" but i lived with a friend from high school when i transferred and she had felt the same way but rushed anyway, and told me i should rush and if i hate it drop out, no love lost. it ended up being my thing, because i found a great group of girls who were just like me and still keep in touch with many of them. actually just about a week ago, my sister was applying for a job at a PR agency i knew a sorority sister worked at so i gave her a call to see if she would give my sister some advice. its created a really great network for all of us i think, many of us do very different things now, but we're all willing to help each other whenever possible.

Quote: Originally Posted by SoontobeMrsE They look really good! Very classic. I love your RSVP wording and may steal it if you don't mind! go right ahead. if you need it in spanish, i have that too.

Quote: Originally Posted by lovefreddy I made so many friendships from being in a sorority. I was an Alpha Sigma Tau. I was the president as well and learned so many leadership and time management skills. It also was something that right out of college looks good on a resume. Shows a well-rounned individual. yeah right out of college i used to put it on my resume that i was on the exec board. it taught me so much about managing people and my own time!

Quote: Originally Posted by LC_Rachel Now I feel bad. I didn't mean to make it seem like I was bagging on sororities. I wasn't in one so I can't say what you get from them. I've only witnessed the stress my sister has experienced with juggling a personal life, job, school work and sorority functions. It could be her too. She sucks at time management. Nah Rach, don't feel bad. It's different for everybody. Every chapter is different.

Quote: Originally Posted by Betsy I love this one! bets that would look great on you!

show us the photos, i bet you are just being super critical of yourself. i bet you look great. losing all that weight is a HUGE accomplishment!

Quote: Originally Posted by angitalia23 Ya my FI is not fond of the whole sorority thing either but you cannot deny the bonds you form and the opportunities you get to become better involved in a campus. I told my FI too about what happened I dont think he was really interested (lol!) but he wasnt prying to know, I just told him, I know he's not going to spill it to anyone else...but I did feel a little like I was cheating my sorority or something! But I guess whatever, i graduated five years ago it's been a long time my FI was desperately prying and wanting to know why i was so loyal to my sorority sisters. i tried to explain in minimal detail, about the initiation church ceremony etc etc, he didnt get it and dropped it. but he didnt like that it was something i was hesitant to share, because he always tells me he "has no secrets" from me. i did feel a little guilty about telling him, but i didnt go into great detail. Quote: Originally Posted by LC_Rachel My sister is a tri delt. After watching the things she goes through, I don't think I could have ever been in a sorority. I don't like people telling me what to do and everything is so regulated. I think she has fines up the wazoo now. every chapter is different, but generally you only get fined when you break the rules... i was the risk management chair, and we gave out fines for alcohol violations and other serious offenses that got our chapter on probation with our national office. my chapter was laid back when i joined and had barely any rules which is what got us in trouble. once we had rules, things went much more smoothly. some chapters are really strict, but its a bond i am happy to have and to have been a part of. i may not have met my best friends otherwise. sometimes the girls who are on the exec board are bitches on a power trip, i will tell you that, and my chapter had a few for sure. there are usually always ways out of the fines too. it all depends on what they're for. honestly, joining a sorority was a hugely positive experience for me because i always had a hard time making friends with other girls because i dont play catty BS games. i was a transfer student my soph yr, and a lot of sororities turned me away because i was not worth 3.5 years of dues... they cut me immediately after finding out i wasnt a freshman. my sorority welcomed me with open arms, and the girls who were my own age treated me as if i was a part of their pledge class, and my own pledge class looked up to me for being a leader. for me, it was the single most positive experience i had in college aside from studying abroad.

two of my BMs are best friends i made in my sorority. one was my "twin" because we had the same big. my FI thinks sororities are weird and was sketched out when i hesistated recently when he asked what my sorority initiation was like. it wasnt anything bad, it was actually nice and very spiritual, but you gals know, you vow to not reveal it to anyone, and i never told anybody before telling my FI.

welcome elizabeth! there are lots of cabo brides here to help you!

i was! i was a tri delt! and i agree, BDW is a lot like an adult sorority