Aaaah!! You don't know if she's even going?! Okay, I may have a tendency to get emotional quickly, but this calls for emotion. That's just more stress than you should have to deal with when planning a wedding. I would say a decision definately needs to be made right away. I don't like confrontation either so, one way of handling things is to have a discussion with her and somehow ask her is she is feeling overwelmed and maybe would like to hand the job over to someone else. Kind of make it her idea. Afterall, it doesn't sound like she's enjoying herself either.