I don't know how I just saw this thread now, but wow.. the nerve of some people. It honestly bothers me sometimes how insensitive people can be when you're having a DW as opposed to an at home wedding. I can't even begin to explain how frustrating it was when some people's attitudes were that I got a free wedding because of them. Little did they know that our wedding actually cost us $10000.00 and yes, the free trip is an extra perk if you get it, but we weren't banking on it either.
My aunt actually backed out of our wedding week the week before we left and my mom was extremely upset because it was her only sibling going. After the wedding, I received no card from her.. absolutely nothing at all. Not that we were expecting money or anything, but she backed out the week of our wedding and got her trip amount reimbursed because she bought insurance. Not even a card to say congrats?
I saw her at a family gathering a few weeks ago and she brought it up to me saying how her booking benefitted me and that's why we didn't get a card. I was so offended that I actually told her "You did nothing for me. I paid for my entire wedding and you didn't help me in ANY way, in fact it was quite the opposite because you backed out the week before we left and I had to pay a per person rate for many things for my wedding in advance".
She knew she offended me and I honestly haven't spoken to her since. I do hold a grudge sometimes, but in this case I don't feel wrong for it. I honestly can't stand when people are this ignorant and don't understand.
Chester and I are a young couple just starting out and worked hard to pay for our whole wedding. No one assisted us.. it just bothers me how someone can discount that with some ignorant words and thinking that our guest list paid for our wedding because they attended it.