@HerreraNovia I feel your pain! I swear that was all I thought about for a couple months haha! @MrsSheppardToBe is SO right, take you time! The right resort will come along.
Sorry to hear about the troubles with your wedding planner! We had some problems with our travel agent, we actually ended up firing her and finding a new lady. The lady we fired was coming back with quotes that were way too high and was also pushing us towards certain options. I wonder if she gets a nice commission from these private venues?
For us, one of the nice things about a destination wedding is that everyone can stay out as late as they want, relaxed and worry free, and then stubble back to their rooms. I'm assuming you'd need to travel to the private venue, which may not be as fun getting home. Just a thought, could also be worth it!
We ended up choosing Azul Sensatori! Got a great deal for guests, it's 20 minutes from the airport, 438 rooms, good layout, good wedding packages and the rooms are nice and modern (they all have jacuzzi's, ipod docks, rain showers, etc.). And you can get married on the roof or "Sky terrace". A few downsides were that the beach isn't the best and they charge an $800 outside vendor fee. After weighing all the pros and cons we decided it was perfect for us!
Hopefully that helps!