I've never heard of a Stag and Doe party to help pay for the wedding until I moved to Ontario, and I must admit that the idea always seemed a little strange and unfair to me, but to each their own, everyone has their own traditions and I'm not knocking it.
We are going to an all-inclusive resort in Punta Cana, and our usual traditions are a bachelor / bachelorette party, and a bridal shower....these are usually thrown by the family / bridal party. I have informed my friends and family that because they are spending so much money to go my wedding I don't expect any of those things and if they do choose to have them we can do it at the resort where everything is free or close to it . I'm also NOT registering for any gifts or suggesting Green Back, I'm just going to ask that people share their vacation pictures as my gift, I love pictures...even bad ones.
We are paying for the wedding ourselves and the budget is tight, tight, TIGHT! I know that I will have to do without some things at my wedding, but being a guest of a couple of DW's, one all-Inclusive and two not, I understand the financial strain it could have on some guests and I've heard some of the complaints from the other guests. So I just want everyone to have fun and stress free vacation together without extra this and extra that. I want them to look back at our wedding and think of how much fun it was rather than how much money it cost them.
It's a always a tough decision when it comes to friends, family and money...good luck!