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#1 Chayness120590

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    Posted 15 January 2013 - 11:29 PM

    Hi,

     

    I am Chai, planning to get marry this January 30, 2013.

    I've been with my fiance for two years, we've been through UPS and DOWNS 

    (most of the time DOWNS)

    Anyways, he been always asking me to marry him. 

    Not in a traditional way but Civil wedding.

    I didn't agree to that, in the first place I am still not sure if I want to get married.

    He is now 27 and i am still 22 years old.

    He maybe sure of what he is saying, or should i say he just get into the flow.

    I am 3 months pregnant, and my parents ask him for his plan.

    He says to marry me, but then it went to be too SOON.

    I maybe excited but most of the time CONFUSED..

    Will this marriage life be a success? or just another mistake.

    I get the point of my parents, but in my own opinion, 

    marriage should be PLANNED very well and there should NO SECOND THOUGHTS.

    Can someone advice me what to do?

    I am still not ready to marry, but I will be such a disgrace to my family if i end up 

    pregnant and doesn't have a husband.

    your opinion will be much appreciated.

     

    Thanks,

    Manilyn

     



    #2 MandieTOFF

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      Posted 16 January 2013 - 06:19 PM

      Hello, :) 

       

       It sounds like your in a very tough spot! I think if you feel deep down the marriage isn't what you want then don't do it. The only reason why you should get married is because you want to not because your parents want to or your fiancee. It may be a tough decision but if you follow your heart you will be happy in the end:) 

       

       Good Luck! 


      Amanda Tofflemire


      #3 kard613

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        Posted 19 January 2013 - 08:53 AM

        Getting married is such a personal decision and one that should entered into for you, not your parents. Like Mandie said, follow your heart. I wish you happiness and congrats on being pregnant!

        #4 Chayness120590

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          Posted 21 January 2013 - 04:41 PM

          Originally Posted by MandieTOFF 

          Hello, :) 

           

           It sounds like your in a very tough spot! I think if you feel deep down the marriage isn't what you want then don't do it. The only reason why you should get married is because you want to not because your parents want to or your fiancee. It may be a tough decision but if you follow your heart you will be happy in the end:) 

           

           Good Luck! 

          hi Mandie :)

           

          Its not just my parents want me so, it's also because I am pregnant. They want to have my dignity back.. I am a Filipino and it's part of our culture that we MUST have a husband as we have a child. Well not all of us but then my 'family tree' do practice such norms. I can't barely understand my feelings, sometimes i get excited but most of the times confused.

           

          Thanks

          Lyn



          #5 Chayness120590

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            Posted 21 January 2013 - 04:43 PM

            Originally Posted by kard613 

            Getting married is such a personal decision and one that should entered into for you, not your parents. Like Mandie said, follow your heart.

            I wish you happiness and congrats on being pregnant!

            Thanks Kard :) 

            my heart says Stop and Go.. how should get any choice for the 2 ways? :(






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