| Originally Posted by A10CALGAL |
I love you! Thank you for sharing, and understanding the tough position of being a step-mother.
DH and I have def had conversations about how he needs to let go of this guilt. He recognizes it, but he is clearly having trouble being consistent. I asked him if he thought counseling would help. He thought it might. It really sucks to see all this go on, it's horrible. Even worse, his younger son that lives with his mom is on a serious down hill slide - eighth grade and he has 3 F's and a D already...no expectations at home. He is going to grow up to be a dependent mama's boy. God help us.
I think counseling would help just to help him let it go. All I can say is that being in this situation is extremely challenging. This is a big part of why FI and I have had such a long dating relationship. It took me three years to decide if it was something I could truly handle!
It's so sad how these broken relationships affect the children. I was watching Oprah's show on "Children of Divorce" and it had me sobbing! I'll keep your other step-son in my prayers.
But I do think that "tuff love" is what the older one needs. Maybe you can tell him that if he wants a ride, it's HIS responsibility to wake you
up in enough time for you to take him. I wouldn't take that on for him anymore and spend my time trying to help him get ready!
I'm glad to be your sister in the fight to help our DH/FI get through this tuff situation! (As long as you respond when it's MY turn to rant!)