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#5141 vas2014

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Posted 26 August 2013 - 06:19 PM

I think his family are great people, but only if they could understand. They are big on RESPECT which Means something different then respect. lol he cant tell them no, or disagrees with them. Omg and they give him a guilt trip,about we're he work n how much he makes and how he need to contribute more to them... I can go on and on. its getting worst since we announce our wedding. Don't get me wrong I have a couple of friends n family too that want to invite themselves.but I simply explain small n simple. he just cant. I will be address his parents myself as per my mom suggestion. Hope I don't start drama..

#5142 MissJali

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    Posted 26 August 2013 - 06:21 PM

    no

    M­ss Jali, are you ready for some new enemies? You know that will be a big issue, I just did it somewhere else to avoid stress and conflict.

    no new enemies here, I invited close family and friends, I'm so estranged from some family in DR, they don't even know I'm getting married so it is what it is. lol

    #5143 vas2014

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    Posted 26 August 2013 - 06:28 PM

    Were having the same problem....its really starting to annoy me bc the extra person fees might be half of what the wedding costs which is ridiculous. My MOH brothet and mom want to come to celebrate and said they completely understand if theu cant come to the wedding or reception....at least some understand

    We choose Jellyfish for 45 to avoid double cost of resort. Mayte seems to work with you budget . my problem is all the other things like the 80 strangers in my wedding, lol well we talk and clear the air today but with all going on I'm stressed n staring to break out. I feel like a pre teen while I'm 35...

    #5144 tyrebride2b2013

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      Posted 26 August 2013 - 07:40 PM

      I could spend all day on here... I'm only at 29 posts. 150 seems so far away crybaby2.gif

      It'll come in no time.. this site is so addictive.

      I need help!!!! We wanted a small & intimate wedding so we tried and tried to keep it at 25 guests. So we look at Jamaica because my FI being from the Dominican Republic it would be hard to keep it to that #. Fast forward that after hours of conversation with his parents we settled with Punta Cana; with Two major rules. Rule1 is as we are paying for his parents travel they must fly into Punta Cana stay for wedding at resort before heading to their home towns. 2. Family member who cannot afford it cannot come.  I think its fare.  Well as soon as we decided Punta Cana our list went from 25-50 (20 of the guest are his sibling with spouse and kids all local to the island). It being my second wedding I was ok with leaving friends and family out.   Oh well I thought. We launch our wedding website last week. ONLY to find that some family member forward it to others that were not invited.  We clearly say it on the website in English and in Spanish only a selected amount of people were invited please don’t forward information. I don’t know what to do? We are not doing an after destination wedding reception. Like most brides I said yes to the whole destination wedding to keep it simple, but to him it’s a full out Wedding affair. His family has no concept on money, saving and planning ahead. I’m about to blow up. All 13 of my guest have put $ down and are ok. His family they think they have until April-May.  Shavon Sorry for venting on here but my BM are my 2 children 9 & 13 and well you know my friends don't understand.

      Venting is perfectly acceptable here we support each other..as for FI family sorry you have to go through it all of us are in some way. You guys have to be stern your day your decision. Hard as I t may be. Is this FIs 1st wedding? You mentioned your 2nd. If his first maybe that's why he finds it hard yo say no to family. Hope all works out:-)

      Just spend a week on this thread---you'll be well on your way!

      Lol..so true

      #5145 vas2014

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      Posted 26 August 2013 - 07:44 PM

      It'll come in no time.. this site is so addictive. Venting is perfectly acceptable here we support each other..as for FI family sorry you have to go through it all of us are in some way. You guys have to be stern your day your decision. Hard as I t may be. Is this FIs 1st wedding? You mentioned your 2nd. If his first maybe that's why he finds it hard yo say no to family. Hope all works out:-) Lol..so true

      Yes this is his 1st.

      #5146 vas2014

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      Posted 26 August 2013 - 07:50 PM

      It'll come in no time.. this site is so addictive. Venting is perfectly acceptable here we support each other..as for FI family sorry you have to go through it all of us are in some way. You guys have to be stern your day your decision. Hard as I t may be. Is this FIs 1st wedding? You mentioned your 2nd. If his first maybe that's why he finds it hard yo say no to family. Hope all works out:-) Lol..so true

      Yes this is his 1st . He's also the youngest of 7 and the most successful out the bunch . :( when he and I talk he's understanding, n he's like ill talk to them. My mistake is not being part of the conversation with his family. They get the guilt trip going n I'm the bad one for a couple hours lol j

      #5147 tyrebride2b2013

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        Posted 26 August 2013 - 09:37 PM

        Yes this is his 1st . He's also the youngest of 7 and the most successful out the bunch . :( when he and I talk he's understanding, n he's like ill talk to them. My mistake is not being part of the conversation with his family. They get the guilt trip going n I'm the bad one for a couple hours lol j

        That might explain the family. .his first marriage and baby boy double whammy. .lol.. I'm not sure you can win this battle to easily

        #5148 moodyc82

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        Posted 27 August 2013 - 03:36 AM

        Originally Posted by vas2014 

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        We choose Jellyfish for 45 to avoid double cost of resort. Mayte seems to work with you budget . my problem is all the other things like the 80 strangers in my wedding, lol well we talk and clear the air today but with all going on I'm stressed n staring to break out. I feel like a pre teen while I'm 35...

        My resort isn't that bad and my grandmother is older so she can't be traveling off the resort for the wedding, and my mother has some mental issues and I think the whole wedding is throwing her off the edge so I don't want to turn things worse by moving around so much while there. Which sucks, but we'll make due

        Originally Posted by tyrebride2b2013 


        That might explain the family. .his first marriage and baby boy double whammy. .lol.. I'm not sure you can win this battle to easily

        Mine is the oldest of the siblings, italian, and his first marriage.....the Italian mother part is a pain in the assssss



        #5149 MrsPeele2B

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          Posted 27 August 2013 - 08:13 AM

          Originally Posted by vas2014 


          Yes this is his 1st . He's also the youngest of 7 and the most successful out the bunch . when he and I talk he's understanding, n he's like ill talk to them. My mistake is not being part of the conversation with his family. They get the guilt trip going n I'm the bad one for a couple hours lol j

          :( I hate how planning something that's supposed to be the most special day of our lives can be overshadowed by our families and their selfishness. I know that they just want to share in our day, but it's unfair to the bride. I could see if they were paying for everything, but since they're not... Sorry hun!



          #5150 g9genine

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            Posted 27 August 2013 - 04:30 PM

            Lets hear it for a late start! :eek:Can anyone give me info on booking at an all inclusive resort that will do a legal wedding on a Sunday ?? I've only found beaches t&c which seems too much for guest and beaches Jamaica which is too far from the airport, also sandals in Jamaica which is couples only, in need of serious help!! Trying for a june 2014 Sunday, no luck so far!




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