Anything offered should be accepted with grace and gratitude. If you've stated up front that you don't expect gifts (from anyone, much less those who travel with you), and they still offer a gift, then that is their decision, and I wouldn't make a scene or awkward moment by refusing it.
Originally Posted by Kel123073
Actually they were yelling at me in regards to a wedding gift at the reception. A lot of friends told me not to expect a gift but if someone gives an envelope then you just accept it. As far as the bridal shower, my mom is insisiting on throwing me one, especially since many people will not attend a destination wedding. I was okay with that, but kind of feel like we shouldn't accept an envelope at the reception. If someone spends that amount of money to attend the wedding, I definitely think that this is their gift to us.