Hi all. I don't think I've seen a thread on this topic, so I thought I'd start one to see if other brides are experiencing what I have been since FI and I got engaged...or if I'm just being overly-sensitive?
It seems from the MINUTE we got engaged, alot of people feel the need or think it's okay to ask all kinds of annoying and rude questions. Questions that I would never dream of asking myself, and frankly I find to be nosy and kinda ballsy! Below are some examples of questions I've been fielding from some relatives, friends, and even aquaintances, and the responses that I scream in my head. I always answer back very politely because sometimes they do mean well, but it's just so unnerving especially coming from certain people!
Q: When are you having babies? Will you try to come back with a "honeymoon baby"?
A: Why are you so interested in us having babies? Will you be the one taking care of them, paying childcare, getting me back into shape? Is it because I'm 31 yrs old, and decided to start my career, unlike you that got married (or sometimes not) and had 2 kids by 23? Really? Because I'm not interested in that yet. But I'll happily let you know when it happens to secure babysitting services from you.
Q: How much are you paying for your wedding?
A: Alot of $. But less than I'd be paying if we would have a traditional wedding here. But why do you ask, would you like to contribute? Otherwise, it's none of your business. We'd love for you to attend and share in our happiness (if you're even invited).
Q: How big exactly is the diamond on your engagement ring? Did you want a bigger rock?
A: Ummm...what...is 1.7 carats not big enough?! Jeez...it's bigger than yours!
Q: I'm being invited, right? (This usually comes from someone who we have no intentions of inviting).
A: Umm...no, you're not being invited. What makes you think you'd be invited? Did you invite us to yours? Did you even congratulate us on our engagement, even with a simple phone call or email? Do you just want to have free drinks and dinner on our penny? No. You're not invited, sorry.
Q: How much did your gown cost you? Do you have a picture? (this one always comes from the frenemies)
A: Probably more than yours. And no, I'm not showing you a picture. Why would I show you my dress? Where's the element of surprise?
These are just a few off the top of my head. Feel free to add...I have tons more but am curious to see if some of you are dealing with this?