DW then blessing at home

niajs · November 23, 2010

I hope you can help me! For our DW, we'll have around 60 guests, which is great. We'll then have an informal AHR for around 200 guests. FI's gran is in a nursing home and is confined to bed. She and FI's grandad are quite religious and were regular churchgoers until she went into the home. FI now takes his grandad a couple of times a month. As FI has become quite friendly with the vicar in the church, he'd had the idea of having a small blessing in his gran's room at the home. (Our DW will be legal for us) I then suggested that we'd perhaps invite my gran (who is also quite religious and not coming abroad). I now wonder if we should have a bigger blessing in the church (and in his gran's room another day) so that we can invite close family (aunts/uncles/cousins) who can't make it out to our real wedding (e.g. my closest auntie and uncle who would have loved to have come out but can't because they have to look after my gran.) I'm fully aware that, by choosing a wedding abroad, lots of people won't be able to make it, but... The question is: Is this a nice idea? Will those people who have shelled out to come abroad think "why did we bother if they were doing it all again at home?"

jszy10 · November 23, 2010

Its hard to say without REALLY knowing your feelings and/or your family, but I think maybe it would just be nice to have the blessing in your gram's room at the home and invite your other grandparents along. That way you are doing something intimate for both of your grandparents, and celebrating with everyone else at the AHR. The way that I look at it --- I am having a DW to avoid the whole "150+ people watching us in the front of a church" this, which is what neither of us wants. So I guess you would just need to decide whether this is how YOU feel or not.

Originally Posted by niajs

I hope you can help me! For our DW, we'll have around 60 guests, which is great. We'll then have an informal AHR for around 200 guests. FI's gran is in a nursing home and is confined to bed. She and FI's grandad are quite religious and were regular churchgoers until she went into the home. FI now takes his grandad a couple of times a month. As FI has become quite friendly with the vicar in the church, he'd had the idea of having a small blessing in his gran's room at the home. (Our DW will be legal for us) I then suggested that we'd perhaps invite my gran (who is also quite religious and not coming abroad). I now wonder if we should have a bigger blessing in the church (and in his gran's room another day) so that we can invite close family (aunts/uncles/cousins) who can't make it out to our real wedding (e.g. my closest auntie and uncle who would have loved to have come out but can't because they have to look after my gran.) I'm fully aware that, by choosing a wedding abroad, lots of people won't be able to make it, but... The question is: Is this a nice idea? Will those people who have shelled out to come abroad think "why did we bother if they were doing it all again at home?"