I totally agree, but he feels strongly about NOT going to Mexico, so I don't want to force the issue. If it were just a vacation, I might push it, but I don't want any negativity on our wedding moon. I would rather find a place we can agree upon. I have been to Jamaica (with my 1st husband) and loved it, but we also want to go somewhere that is new to both of us. St. Lucia looks beautiful and we were planning to go to a Sandals resort because they seem to have the "wedding moon" thing down to a science. We also live in suburb of a high crime city (Reading, PA), so I think he just wanted to escape all that, as much as possible. I'm not heartbroken about it ~ St. Lucia sounds great!
Aruba is also beautiful and one of the safest islands statistically, but again I was there with my ex.
Good luck with your planning!