Ugh why cant things go the way they are suppose to

[Hartyt509]

Let it go honestly it's not worth the agro.

 

FI and I are only getting married because he is going to Afghanistan, it's a horrible place to go, as is Iraq, and if getting engaged gives him something to look forward to then be happy for him. Trust me he will need it

[*HOLLY*]

I am glad he has someone here he looks forward to seeing. Im nervous as heck that he will get a dear john letter his mom even stated that. I know people get married young but most of them have been together at least a year and then some. Trust me I know first hand. This is my 2nd marriage and my FI first. I should of never been married in the first place but I was prego and at that time my now ex husband was going to go in the army. My future BIL told us they were thinking of getting married before he got shipped off so they could get the benefits of being married. You dont just get married for that because that is what I basically did in my first marriage. The reason why I have such a hard time with this is I really see myself and my ex husband in their shoes. These two have only been together for a few months get engaged and trying to plan a wedding while my future BIL is going to Iraq for 400 days. In regards to having family at the wedding yes it is very important. My brother cant make it because of money and we are not the richest people if we could afford it I would take care of him but I cant. My future FIL can pay for my future BIL but paying for his fiance really erks me because we would not get that treatment if they got married overseas!!!! Yes we are two different people and have two different weddings but the spotlight seems to be more on their wedding then mine and my FI's. Again I may be selfish but I have some reasoning to it. Sorry if I offended anyone Im not trying to but I feel my FI and I are getting the back burner.

[Hartyt509]

I don't think you've offended anyone at all. I can see your point i'm just saying let it go because trust me if he's that way with the other son he always will be and nothing you say will change it.

 

I know what you mean about them making a mistake but if someone had said to me don't do it the first time i did i'd have told them to bog off lol just like you probably would have lol I get don't do it all the time and I've tuned out. It's better to just sit and wait and when it does go tits up be there to catch them. You never know she might not dear john him - i hope she doesn't.

 

As for your wedding just block them out and enjoy it there are only 2 people that need to be there and you've just got to focus on that, that's all i'm doing. Mind you i still want to run for the hills lmao