Young kids at the reception?
Posted 14 March 2009 - 06:10 PM
Would those of you with kids please tell me what you think? Am I worrying to much about this? I would just hate to have these parent's come to the wedding and then leave early b/c they have to put the kids to bed. It's tricky b/c we are all staying at a hotel but having the wedding offsite at a villa. I just can't wrap my mind around how this will work but maybe I'm just being to "type A" about the whole thing.
My FI is furious at me right now b/c I suggested that if he talks to these friends he should let them know that we are having an evening wedding so they can decide if they want to bring the kids. He feels that I'm picking on his friends which I'm not-- I just don't want to be spending my wedding week worrying about how to make special accomdations. Please understand that I'm really not trying to sound mean about it I'm just really frustrated that this is something else that will be on my plate & my FI just doesn't get it when it comes to thinking ahead and planning ahead. He's one of those great people who thinks "the more the merrier" and everything will just work itself out.
Ok, I've vented enough & he still hasn't come back downstairs. Thanks for listening to me!
Posted 14 March 2009 - 08:20 PM
And about having to leave a reception early...when you have kids your life isn't just about you anymore. You do have to give up fun when others are having some. I don't know the last time FI and I went out on a date just the two of us, but this is just something that comes with being a parent. I don't know how others feel, but this is my two cents.
Posted 15 March 2009 - 01:59 AM
BTW-- I love your frog siggy!
Posted 15 March 2009 - 09:33 AM
Posted 15 March 2009 - 12:40 PM
| Originally Posted by H&F |
I have a "young kids" question. My FI has a couple of friends who recently had kids (I'm guessing the ages are from 1 yr to 4 yrs). Personally, I feel that it's rude to bring kids of this age to someone else's wedding and especially to a destination wedding.
I have a 4-year-old daughter and I would never have left her for 4 days with a babysitter when she was 1-year-old. But now that would be possible, lately she has spent some weekends with grandparents and she loves it!
Perhaps you could try to organize a babysitter there for the time of the wedding? Or put your FI to talk with his friends that would they be able to come without the kids.
Dont worry I am sure that everything will work out fine!
Posted 16 March 2009 - 06:44 AM
I would add, however, that if a parent knows that their child is incapable of putting on a "public face" in a formal situation such as a wedding, then that parent should have the good judgment not to bring their child, invited or not. If it's pretty clear that the child in question is incapable of putting on a "public face" (IE, will run around disturbing other guests, has crying or screaming meltdowns, cannot sit quietly during the ceremony, etc.) then yes, it is rude of the parent to bring them, despite an invitation.
That said, parents of young children are going to have a really hard time if they cannot bring thier children to a destination wedding. While I think it is OK to specifiy that certain events in a wedding (such as the ceremony or reception) are adults-only, I really don't think it's polite or practical to prevent parents from bringing their kids to the destination - it's their money, their vacation. Also remember that children are family members - some people just would not consider traveling without them. Just think about how hurt you might feel if someone told you that you could come to their destination wedding, but not your husband.
We have a few guests with young children who will not be invited to the ceremony and reception. We have made a childcare service available to those people. I'm sure that the resort can help you arrange this, too. Another option is to choose an adults-only resort, which will ensure that not only your wedding, but your destination is childfree. Again, however, expect that many people with children will simply choose not to go in this case.
Posted 16 March 2009 - 10:55 AM
Posted 03 February 2011 - 11:03 PM
Does anyone know what happened to H&F? She also was registered as windycitygirl on the forums. I planned on buying her maggie sottero reese dress after her wedding.
Heather Holmes and Farhad Sigari is the name on her wedding profile. It doesn't seem like she ever came back to review her Dreams Villamagna and Casa Las Palapas wedding.
I found her wedding registry under Heather Holmes and Farhad Sigari Wedding registry on Amazon.com
It lists their wedding date as October 24, 2009. But no contact information. She was very active on the wedding boards so I was just wondering WTH happened?
This is the dress and size I am interested in purchasing
If anyone knows how to get in touch with Heather and Farhad lemme know, I hope eveything is okay.
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