| Originally Posted by michelle08 |
I have to agree that this was her choice that she made because she thought it was best for her. It may not be the choice you would have made and maybe it was selfish of her or maybe not but only she will really know that. You have to try and find a way to just let it go and move on...it's hard to see those you love make choices that from the outside seem so wrong or misguided but you really can't support her and judge her decision at the same time so you kinda have to pick which you would rather do...judge or support.
BUT just to throw my two sense in on getting back with the boyfriend...the first thing that came to my mind is she had an abortion because she thought it was the only way he would get back together with her (being that it said he didn't want kids and all). That may not be the real reason why...but it just popped in my head.
Again though...it all goes back to judging or supporting...sometimes you can't help but judge but you have to decide which direction is most important to you!
I agree! Regardless of why she had the abortion, abortion is not an easy decision. Everyone thinks it is, but for many women and girls it is a very difficult decision & one they have to live with for the rest of their lives. Adoption is as well - imagine carrying a child for 9 months and then having to say goodbye to it, it may feel like that child has "died".
Ultimately, this was a choice only SHE could make. Imagine if this child had come into the world, she would have been a mother of a 5 year old and an infant, and the father would most likely have been MIA. What kind of life would that have been for her and those children.
I'm hoping that she will learn from these experiences & hopefully a family member will have the talk about birth control!