The rise of C-Sections and its risks. (Information on C-Sections)

anaderoux · June 2, 2008

Martha my c/s was actually for the same kind of reason your friend is having one.. I'm not offended by people who disagree, don't worry, I know it's a touchy subject and some are against this. My Dr. tried to convince me to have my baby vaginally 'cause I was a good candidate and I was starting to dilate at 36 weeks, but I didn't want to try it..

starchild · June 5, 2008

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Originally Posted by Rachelle E.

But I do think it's crappy that the overall message about modern childbirth is that it's impossible without an epidural (or whatever else)....that women cannot do it, they simply aren't strong enough. I think that's insulting to women and to me personally as well.
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The bottom line of what I'm saying is that I think anyone who has a child should take the time to explore all their options and edcuate themselves as best as possible...that way no matter what their decision, they are certain it was the best one for them. Also, I think it would be nice if people had a little faith in a woman's ability to birth a child. Instead of telling women every terrible story you've ever heard, can't you just encourage them?

I hear you Rachelle, that mentality irks me too. My impossibly tiny co-worker was like 130 pounds at 9 mos. pregnant and birthed an 8 pound baby naturally, by choice, and was told by almost everyone that she was nuts for it. She doesn't think so and that's all that matters. She's fine, baby is fine.

As others have said I think it's best to ensure that you are making an educated decision before you go deciding to have surgery or drugs or neither.

BTW I think everyone has kept this thread really respectful, despite our varied and strong opinions

Nrvsbride · June 5, 2008

I want to comment on Rachelle & Anny's posts:

Rachelle it annoys me that people try to tell you what to do or try to insinuate that you can't do it. My best friend has three children all which were vaginal births and she gave birth to the first two naturallly w/o any epidural. That wasn't by choice. Everytime she got to the hospital she was too dilated and it was too late to give her an epidural. She said it hurt like hell and her second born child ripped her from hole to hole. Is that unpleasant? Yes it is. Does it hurt? Yes it does. But that doesn't mean that just b/c she had one bad birth all of them are going to be that way. With her first born she also didn't get epidural b/c she was too dilated but she didn't have any tearing. It just hurt. The third child she was able to get an epidural and she said it was much easier but it didn't necessarily make it better.

My point is that unless someone is living on another planet we all know that child birth is going to hurt. True, we may not realize what kind of pain it is until we experience it for ourselves. However, everyone has different pain thresholds and even if you can't tolerate pain sometimes you have no choice and you just gotta do what you gotta do.

So I feel for you, b/c no one should be telling you what's best for you, only you know that. I think its great that you have this wonderful birthing plan and I hope when the time comes you have a wonderful pleasant labor. I 100% think you can do it! Its going to hurt, but your a tough cookie and you will get through it! People need to stop telling you horror stories b/c this can happen to anyone under any situation. It doesn't mean its going to happen to you or it could happen to you but so what? In the end its your birthing experience and as long as you do what you feel is right for you and your child, that is all that matters.

~Anny I feel the same way about your situation. While I respect everyone's beliefs and viewpoints on this topic, I don't think its right to pass judgment on others about the route they choose. I am a wimp and would probably pass out from pain. Does that mean that I won't be a good mother? You did what was best for you and I'm proud of you for making that informed decision and not letting others dictate what is best for you.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I support all the mommies and mommies to be decisions and all I can hope for is that everyone is happy with whatever decision they make and that they have a happy, healthy baby!