I know this has been discussed but I need to be talked off a ledge here:( First I gave everyone 18 months notice on our plans for the Aruba wedding.... Including my 3 best friends. I offered to pay everyones airfare and party expenses such as dresses ect... My MOH is someone I have been friends with since we are 8 years old. And the other two almost just as long. They all accepted the invitation. My MOH has special circumstances so I offered to pay for the whole trip for both her and her kids. She backed out 3 months prior to the wedding after I had confronted her about her distance. She says she doesn't want me to pay for her to go. Understood.... But why string me along promising me if you felt this way. I did not giver her a hard time but now she won't answer my call or texts. The other BM says it's a financial issue. And it's not, in reality she just didn't care enough to plan on going. Her and her husband have great jobs and no kids. The third BM was just married in august then got pregnant right away. I automatically counted her out. Then she calls and says She got clearance from the doctor last week.... And that she would be coming. I was so surprised and excited to have a friend come. But now it seems like she still won't commit. She says now she is waiting for work clearance. wTF! Everytime I say hey let me buy ur dress or ticket she gives me the runaround. I wish she never told me she was coming... I spent a whole month crying trying to get over the idea that nobody will be coming for me besides my mom and brother. And all three of my friends have written me off since wedding planning started. I did nothing to deserve this. I feel it's time to do the same to them and move on. I feel alone, hurt, depressed, have nobody to be excited about things girls get excited about with. I can go on and on. But I feel like they aren't as good as friends I have made them out to be in my head. Sorry for the long post. Thanks for listening if you made it through. Wish I would have known that zero of my guests were coming I feel like I'm eloping now!