I started looking into a DW because I love to travel, I heard it was much cheaper and it would cut down on the guest list significantly.
Since then I'm finding out that maybe a DW is not for me. I wanted to cut down on the guest list because the thought of 100+ people watching me ALL day produces a lot of anxiety. But looking through some real wedding pictures I've come to realize that at many AI resorts you are having your wedding on the beach or gazebo and there are just a lot of random people around. To me this is a much worse situation. I have tried to find more private options. It seems boutique hotels are outside our maximum guest budget (1500cad/person from Toronto AI) and villas are just too complicated (both our parents are divorced - would need seperate residences etc.).
Plus I can't seem to get over the guilt associated with spending that much money...on a party (I'm not religious). I just keep thinking about all the other things to spend it on...downpayment on a house, student loans, travel...
I've just been feeling lately like I want to just head to the courthouse one afternoon and get it over with.
Has anyone else felt like this?
Do you know of a way to solve my anxiety about onlooker situation? More private locations you are aware of?
Thanks for listening venting thread...