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My boyfriend is best man at his best friends wedding. By the time the invitations went out we had been together for 5 months. By the time the wedding occurs will be 8 months. I was not invited to the wedding. I was however asked to work the Stag night with my boyfriend. 

Is this not rude? Should I not go? http://www.adora.gr/

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@@miracure - Is this a destination wedding? Regardless, I personally think that everyone should always be allowed a "plus one" if they are not being invited as part of a couple. Unfortunately, though, people are allowed to invite whomever they chose since it's their wedding.


If it's a destination wedding, they can't tell you that you can't go on the trip, but, sadly, they might not include you in the wedding festivities.


I am not surprised that you weren't specifically addressed on the invitation because your relationship is still very new (and I truly don't say that to be rude), but I am surprised if your boyfriend isn't being allowed a +1, which in this case would be you.

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Eek. I'm surprised he wouldn't have been given a plus one to the wedding. Is it a destination wedding? If so, I'd want to make sure that all of my guests were comfortable and also allow them to bring whom they want to travel with (significant others).

Maybe your boyfriend should ask them if the invitation is also extended to you as well?

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I think it is rude to ask you to work the stag but not invite you to the wedding.


But...who asked you to work the stag? Did he say they wanted you to or did they ask you specifically? I could see my FI trying to be nice and say something like "they want you to help" to try and make me feel more included. I think who asked would impact how rude this ask really was.


DW or not, if our best man or maid of honour didn't have a significant other at the time I would have had that chat with them about whether they even wanted one. Generally this person is the closest one to you and having that conversation should not/would not be the slightest bit awkward.


We gave everyone plus ones because it is a DW. But if we were at home and my MOH wasn't in a relationship, I can't see her wanting to bring someone that isn't ger partner as there isn't a ton of time to spend with them because there is a lot of running around to do. The second she got a significant other I definitly would have asked her if I should invite them.


Talk to your man.

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