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Hi Ladies,

 

I'm just about to start our thank you cards but have a few questions. Our wedding was about a month ago, so we figure that we have received all the cards/gifts we are going to get.

 

It appears that we potentially have three different "categories" of cards to write:

1. People who attended the wedding (either with a gift or not),

2. People who were invited to the wedding and sent a card and/or gift, and

3. People who were not invited to the wedding (great aunts, older relatives etc) who send cards and/or gifts.

 

I was just wondering what to write for each "category"? Also, what kind of general wording did people use for their cards?

 

Thanks!

 

 

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For the most part we only had to send cards to people who came to Mexico, but had a few for people (99% co workers) who gave us gifts that didn't attend the wedding. 

 

Generally I just thanked them for traveling to Mexico. That it meant the world to us to have them there to start our new journey together.  Just your basic thank yous. Then I went into specifics per person - thanked them for the gift they gave (if they did), if they were in the bridal party I thanked them for that, if they were at the bachelorette, etc. or organized it, if they helped with the kids in Mexico or what have you --  I personalized them per person.   I also threw in some fun memories if we created some, etc.    

 

Everyone also got extra pictures in their cards.   Almost everyone there had their photo taken with us at the wedding. If they didn't we had them in a group picture at some point as we did the families, all the girls, all the guys, etc. with the photographer.   For family and the bridal party I threw in some extras of those as well. 

 

For our witnesses back home, I also sent them a special card thanking them for being a part of the process of making our marriage official even if they wouldn't be in Mexico.

 

Hope that helps!  I think people are just happy to get a thank you, I wouldn't stress to much what is in it.

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I couldn't have said it any better! That's very similar to what we did except that of course we didn't have anyone in Jamaica so I left that bit out. But all the rest we did  - pictures and absolutely personalize to what you received from the giver. And if they were in Mexico with you definitely a thank you for that.

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Yes I'm beginning to think about this. I second what Kim said. I'll add extra photos to those who came but for those who just sent a gift I will send the generic thank you card ( us on the beach with the writing in the sand saying thank you) with a short note. I debated sending one to those who came who didn't give a gift ( prob most ) but want to because I am thankful they came

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Oh I think if they gave a gift or not they need a thank you note. They spent a lot of time and money to go - you just leave out the gift part as it doesn't apply! That's what I did anyways :)

 

 

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Right. Traditionally thank you cards are just for gifts but in these situations attending is like a gift!

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Right. Traditionally thank you cards are just for gifts but in these situations attending is like a gift!

I didn't know the tradition, I'd probably still send a thank you card anyways for attending. Some traditions are odd.

 

 

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I'm working on mine now as well!  Here's a rough idea of what I'm putting for each category you have:

 

1. People who attended the wedding (either with a gift or not), - We are so grateful you traveled to be with us on our special day. We made memories that we'll cherish for the rest of our lives and we're honored that you are a part of those memories.  We hope you had as much fun as we did!  And if they gave us a gift I added the whole Thank you for the generous gift and for sharing in our special day....something like that.

2. People who were invited to the wedding and sent a card and/or gift, and - Thank you for thinking of us on our special day/we appreciate the generous gift.....and something along the lines of we're sorry you weren't able to attend but hope to see you soon so we can share pictures.

3. People who were not invited to the wedding (great aunts, older relatives etc) who send cards and/or gifts. - For me this was just a coworker that sent me something off the registry.  I'll put something along the lines of:  Thank you for the gift and for thinking of us on our special day.  We'll are excited to use it in our new home!  and I'll add something personal to our relationship (she also recently got married so we've been wedding planning buddies for a bit).

 

 

Hope that helps!

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I sent out two sets of cards:

1. For wedding guests: A personalized card from Shutterfly. The front had a picture of the both of us from our Trash the Dress session and the inside had a group photo from the ceremony with a caption that said "Thank you for joining us in Mexico! We will always cherish the memories we created with you!" The bottom portion of the card had room for writing so I wrote personal notes and thanked those who gave gifts (thank you for your thoughtful/generous gift etc.) and if they didn't, I would try to write about a special memory from the trip or thank them for their contributions to the day. 

2. For everyone else (co-workers/those who couldn't attend/etc.): I purchased some simple cards from Target and sent those out to those who did not attend but sent cards and/or gifts. 

 

I would suggest buying some extras of a generic type so that you can send one out quickly if need be. We received a lot of cards in the month following the wedding that we didn't really expect. I think people wait to see if you plan on having an at home reception before sending a card/gift. Good luck!

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I recently received a thank you card for a (non-DW) wedding I attended a few months ago. It was from Shutterfly or something, with photos from the wedding, and was very nice. But there was no personal note. Not even our names. I thought it was weird. Is that common? Just a card with nothing handwritten or personalized? It was a flat style (mailed in an envelope) with photos on both sides, so it's not like I opened up a blank card or something. But still seemed odd to me.

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