Any other 2014 brides here getting an early start?

[brownsugarbride]

Originally Posted by tyrebride2b2013 

 

I also want to wait until booked but don't want to wait too long either. I guess I will go ahead and ask within the next month or two.

 

I do have a dilema. His BM is his best friend like a brother to him. He was married two years ago and ofcourse FI was his BM. I was not in the wedding his wife and him are the godparents to our children. We are friends but they were friends first they all grew up together they reference each other as brothers and sister. They are all assuming that she is a BM however I had no intentions of making her one now I don't know what to do. Am wrong to not ask her? Or do I just bite the bullet and ask her?

 

Oh, that's so awkward.  Who in the world assumes that they'll be a bridesmaid?  How many bridesmaids had you intended to ask?  Perhaps you could put if off to wanting even numbers or something like that. Or maybe you could say that you didn't want to make both her and her husband incur the extra costs associated with being in the wedding party?

[tyrebride2b2013]

Cherina I love your mantra. I can't wait until I can be at that point. Big problem of mine stressing over things and caring too much of what people think

I asked from the jump. Although I do not know who is coming as of yet. Who ever is there is there. That is my mantra. I REFUSE TO STRESS OVER WHAT I CAN'T CONTROL !!! it took me a long time to get to this point.

[tyrebride2b2013]

Yes very awkward :-(... He has 5confirmed and one possible. . So I need 5 for sure. Sad part is it's not just her who assumes it her husband and my future husband assume as well. When we discuss the wedding its always "we" I never respond. She even has practiced how "we" will be walking out. I just feel pressured

Oh, that's so awkward.  Who in the world assumes that they'll be a bridesmaid?  How many bridesmaids had you intended to ask?  Perhaps you could put if off to wanting even numbers or something like that. Or maybe you could say that you didn't want to make both her and her husband incur the extra costs associated with being in the wedding party?

[brownsugarbride]

Originally Posted by tyrebride2b2013 

 

Cherina I love your mantra. I can't wait until I can be at that point. Big problem of mine stressing over things and caring too much of what people think

 

You are getting married in Turks and Caicos!  Your wedding is going to be fabulous just because! LOL  In all seriousness, it is important to many brides on here, myself included, that our weddings be different and unique.  One of my friends reminded me that my wedding will be unique simply because it's a destination wedding. The people that care are going to be there cheering you and FH on and having too wonderful of a time to criticize. 

[brownsugarbride]

Originally Posted by tyrebride2b2013 

 

Yes very awkward :-(... He has 5confirmed and one possible. . So I need 5 for sure. Sad part is it's not just her who assumes it her husband and my future husband assume as well. When we discuss the wedding its always "we" I never respond. She even has practiced how "we" will be walking out. I just feel pressured

 

I really hate that you're being put in this situation.  So unfair.  I think it's time to sit down with your FH and have an honest conversation about how you feel.

[brownsugarbride]

On a more positive note, tyrebride, I just love your passport invitations!!

[tyrebride2b2013]

You are getting married in Turks and Caicos!  Your wedding is going to be fabulous just because! LOL  In all seriousness, it is important to many brides on here, myself included, that our weddings be different and unique.  One of my friends reminded me that my wedding will be unique simply because it's a destination wedding. The people that care are going to be there cheering you and FH on and having too wonderful of a time to criticize. 

Thank you so much Brownsugar for that..it's very true it will be beautiful just being on turks :-)...love the support on the boards

[tyrebride2b2013]

I really hate that you're being put in this situation.  So unfair.  I think it's time to sit down with your FH and have an honest conversation about how you feel.

Thank you again. I actually did speak with him about it and he doesn't understand why she can't just be in the wedding.

[tyrebride2b2013]

On a more positive note, tyrebride, I just love your passport invitations!!

Thanks. She worked hard putting up with my indecisiveness..lol. We are getting married the same month what's your date?

[brownsugarbride]

On the bridesmaid you don't want: your FH probably just doesn't get that you don't share the same closeness with this woman that he does.  One thing I'm learning about this process is that it really does become more about what OTHER people want, than what you as the bride wants.   

 

Originally Posted by tyrebride2b2013 


Thanks. She worked hard putting up with my indecisiveness..lol. We are getting married the same month what's your date?

 

Ha! I'm clearly way more indecisive than you,because I still don't have a venue!  I'm flying down next month (either with mom or FH) to make a final decision but I'm really leaning toward the Grand Coral Beach Club.  I'm not wedded to a date, but wanted to pick a date where my university colleagues would be done with the semester, if at all possible.