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So our wedding is now two months away and in the past two months we have had three couples back out. Most recently, one of our groomsmen and his girlfriend because he started a new job and they won't give him the time off. So because we are renting a villa, and took the overall cost and divided it by the amount of people coming, we are now on the hook to pay the rest of their rooms!! And have no idea where that money is going to come from. We have filled one room already and another friend is going to let us know, but I am so frustrated. Why do people commit to something, put a lot of money down and then just walk away. The worst part, the other two couples (my aunt and uncle and FI's aunt and uncle) didn't even have the balls to say it to our face. My aunt sent me a message on Facebook!!! And his aunt e-mailed him. I am just so sick of people ruining this for us.

And with the groomsmen it's not even the money thing. He is supposed to be in our wedding party and two months before he suddenly backs out? We are going to try and talk to them this weekend and see if he can get a few days off then they can at least come for a few days and be there for the wedding.

Every single wedding-related event has been ruined by someone. Everyone has created so much drama I really can't handle anymore!!! If one more thing goes wrong I might actually have a nervous breakdown.

Worst part is I am going to my first fitting tonight and am terrified the dress won't fit. I am a stress eater, and even though I have been working out, I think it might be snug and I am terrified of that!!!!

Sorry for sharing my frustrations but I think I might snap!!!!

Other than that I am excited that is two months away!!! Soon I will be in the sun with close friends and family!!!

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It's okay Amanda, I deal with this everyday, LOL.

My husband's cousin and brother are supposed to be his best men.  Our wedding is November 12 and neither one has applied for a passport and neither one of them have a plane ticket.  In our case we offered to pay for rooming for the wedding party based on double occupancy in a room.  His cousin's wife, continues to go back and forth in regards to rather she is coming or not, so as far as I am concerned his cousin (if he comes) has no room and I refused I really mean I REFUSE to worry about them.  My husband is so nonchalant towards the matter which really irks me more.  C'mon this is your family, not friends, family (brother and cousin) and they can't step up to the plate and do what needs to be done of them!!!


So trust me when I say Amanda ~ you are not alone especially being on this site.

I can continue to go on about family, being continuously flaky yet I choose not to let any of them bother me anymore!

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I completely agree with anudrm... I actually from the beginning of when we decided we wanted a DW knew it would be an issue we were VERY lucky in the way that we have only had ONE person my FI's BM give us shit about coming... Finally he has decided he is not coming and oh well there is nothing that we can do! It's better not to harp on what is bad and think about what is good!! We fortunately have a lot of people going to come that we actually had no intention of them coming at all which is a nice surprise..


But the thing to remember is if somebody wants to be there... they will be there... if they don't really care..... they won't. I feel as though you probably gave everyone a great advance notice.... I am being double occupancy in a room with somebody for 3 nights will run you about $1,000.00 with plane fare which is not a lot of money.... I mean obv. if people can't come due to medical problems that is a different story but whoever wants to be there will be there!! I guess we just find out who we really mean something too!

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