Divorced Parents

[LP123]

I am looking for suggestions on how to handled divorced parents who can't stand each other in a destination wedding.  Our wedding is turning out to be about them and not about us.  At least one of them is very likely to walk out on us at the last minute due to inability to cope with the other one being there.  This is adding tremendous stress to both of us and is embarrassing for me as there is nothing of this sort in his family.  Anyone else has these issues and how did you deal or planning to deal with it?  Thanks in advance! 

[philanab]

My parents are also divorced, and this is part of the reason we have chosen to have a destination wedding. My parents not exactly getting along with each other is something that has constantIy been in my thoughts when dreaming about my wedding, even as a child. I was hoping with the relaxed atmosphere everything will go smoothly, and both of my parents actually think a DW is a good idea.You may consider choosing a resort that is large enough that your mother and father can spend their days at opposite ends of the resort, or choosing a resort that has a sister resort next to it. I know the RIUs generally have a few resorts lumped together; your parents can stay at different sister resorts, then you or they, can choose to come and go to the sister resorts when you/they please, as you have access to them all. One of them could also plan on staying at a different resort entirely then get a day pass to be there for the wedding, and you could plan on getting together at some other point for an excursion or day out, to include them as much as possible. In the end, they should be there for you and understand that weddings are stressful enough without having to act as a mediator between your parents.

I wish you luck!!!