I think I will be able to answer more of your questions in more detail once we start the detailed planning in November (6 months prior). As far as the process so far, we secured the venue for our ceremony and reception. We are having our ceremony at the Ocean Point which I would highly recommend. It's one of the best location for sunsets in Poipu. Our reception will be held on the Ocean lawn which I would recommend over the Beach Lawn which is almost on the side of the property and not as great of a location. In November we will start discussing details like flowers, cake, colors, etc. One thing I would caution you about is photography and videography...Do your research! We loved our photographer who did our engagement photos so we are actually flying her in but there are only a few on the island of Kauai so maybe do your research and fly someone in from Oahu. The resort will charge you a $150-$250 fee to bring in your own vendors though just as a heads up. We thought photography was worth it.
The hotel does not offer complimentary nights but will give you a slight discount. I am going to try to negotiate that further so we'll see.
Like I said, I think I will know a lot more once we start the detailed planning in November but let me know if you have any more questions...
Oh! A couple more money saving pointers...
There is a Safeway about 25 minutes away that does bouquets for about $30-$60 which will save you a ton going through them instead of the hotel which charges $60-$200
There is a Macy's about 15 minutes away where you can get your makeup done at any of their makeup vendors i.e. Clinique. Some brands are complimentary, some charge $50-$100.