cash shower???

[rdhbride]

ok ladies i need some help! my family wants us to have a bridal shower. we have been living together for 7 years now and have basically everything we've wanted and needed over the years. unless someone wants to buy us a new living room set or bedroom set we're good. my aunt was saying we should have a cash shower and specify that on the invite. i'm kind of on the fence about it. it seems a lil like begging for $$$ but than again whats the difference cause they would be spending money on a gift anyway. is this rude? we thought about gift cards but with stores closing that could be a waste. i don't know .... i would be ok with no shower but fam is disappointed i even suggested that and since we are doing a destination wedding alot of people aren't going so this would be like the get together for them. what to do ? thanks for the help in advance!!!

[mich999]

I think it would not be right to specify that you want cash on an invite. I have always read that it is inappropriate reference gifts on the invite because that presumes that's the purpose of the party. Also, many people do not like to gift money as a gift, especially for a shower. Think about registering somewhere for things you'd maybe like to replace (new sheets or towels) or some other things that would be fun to have but you'd never buy them yourself.

[miss di]

i don't necessarily think it's a bad thing to ask for money - but that might be because i have an asian mother who lives on "red envelopes" for everything. in fact she even told us to screw off registries and just ask for red envelopes. don't think we're going to do that, but we ARE gonig to register at bed bath adn beyond because i'm pretty sure you can return items for cash. maybe you should just register there...and plan on returning everything for the $$. lol - just call ahead and make sure that's true.

[miss di]

here you go! i just stumbled upon this thread: http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t42020

[GoCubs!]

I think it might be kind of tacky to ask for cash for a shower. Honestly if you really can't think of anything to register for I would say don't have a shower. I was kind of in the same boat as you - my fiance and I are both established and already have a lot of nice things - but I started thinking about random things that I could upgrade and it was all downhill from there. Try to be creative with your registry (camping gear, power tools, china that you never would have otherwise bought). Just my two cents...

[rdhbride]

thanks for the advice and help. i would prefer not to even have a shower . i told my mom i just wanted the money instead and she was cool with that but its the family who are not, urggggh!!!

[rdhbride]

i told my mom lets do a martini night and that didn't go over to well lol. so she agreed to just give me the money she would spend on the shower.