Why do people have issues with budgets?

[KirstenRN6]

That stinks that you two are arguing. It's no secret that financial issues are a huge factor for arguments in marriages. My FI and I went to a course lead by Dave Ramsey, called Financial Peace University. It's a 13 week course and it was awesome! It forces (or rather encourages) people to talk about finances and helps you set a plan for the future. His classes are offered everywhere. Check out his website if you are interested. Real Debt Help - Get out of debt with Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover Plan.. He's really funny too! Good luck!

[shellb]

Thanks ladies! We've actually managed to sort a few things out this afternoon.

 

He knew how much his reaction to this whole situation has upset me, so we talked for a bit. I explained yet again that I don't want to cancel the trip or ruin the fun. I just want us to figure out how much it is going to roughly cost and look at ways we can save some money along the way. He had got stuck on my asking him to come up with a rough number for what we are spendind on gas. He knows the gas-guzzling SUV is a sore spot with me. We decided to drop the side-trip to Toronto to watch a ball game that he wanted, find economical motels for the 2 nights we need to stay on the drive to and from Ontario and to cut a few projects we had planned for around the house this summer.

 

I think he finally got where I was coming from, that the big picture is the wedding next April, and that I am not some crazy woman constantly worrying about money.

 

Thank you for the support and advice. I am definitely going to see if I can find those books at the library. I love Suze Orman too, also a bit hooked on Til Debt do Us Part on Slice TV.

[rodent]

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Originally Posted by shellb Thanks ladies! We've actually managed to sort a few things out this afternoon. He knew how much his reaction to this whole situation has upset me, so we talked for a bit. I explained yet again that I don't want to cancel the trip or ruin the fun. I just want us to figure out how much it is going to roughly cost and look at ways we can save some money along the way. He had got stuck on my asking him to come up with a rough number for what we are spendind on gas. He knows the gas-guzzling SUV is a sore spot with me. We decided to drop the side-trip to Toronto to watch a ball game that he wanted, find economical motels for the 2 nights we need to stay on the drive to and from Ontario and to cut a few projects we had planned for around the house this summer. I think he finally got where I was coming from, that the big picture is the wedding next April, and that I am not some crazy woman constantly worrying about money. Thank you for the support and advice. I am definitely going to see if I can find those books at the library. I love Suze Orman too, also a bit hooked on Til Debt do Us Part on Slice TV.

What is slice TV? Sounds like a show I'd like.

I also podcast "simply money." I find financial stuff to be fun. Some people hate talking about it more than anything.

Our first vacation together was to new orleans. I was stressed the entire time about money we were spending. I never live it up on vacation & with all the eatting out it can get expensive. We hadn't been together long & didn't know how to really communicate with each other. It was tense. We just needed to work on things together & we have. I've losened up too. It wasn't all him at all. We went to London last year & we are such a team now one spending & saving. It's great to see how we evolved. We never could have done that peacefully if we were still the same as our new orleans trip.

I also do not like gas guzzlers, but he has a big truck. Before he bought it I tried to talk him in to something smaller. But, it's what he wants. I just have to not think about the gas because it's out of my control. And he has moved my stuff so many times that I do benefit from him having a truck.

My worrying about money all the time probably annoyed him at first. Now he really appreciates & respects that about me. But, I am also not as annoying as I was before. He always says sweet things about how much he loves that I'm keeping our wedding cheap.

[shellb]

Slice TV is a station we have in Canada. A lot like the Life network. Not sure if you have it in the US.

 

Here's the link to it: Til Debt Do Us Part ? TV Shows ? Slice

 

You can watch the episodes on there, I think.

 

She tells them like it is, makes them get rid of the plastic, live off of a stirctly cash budget, shows them how if they continue at the rate they are spending at how much debt they will be in a few years down the road.

 

I am addicted to it.

[rodent]

It says "sorry not available in your country." I figured that would happen. I learned they block shows to other countries when my friend moved to london. I hadn't thought about that before.

[shellb]

Well, if you ever come to Canada, you'll have to check it out.