sarasam18

Hey there! I am having trouble deciding who I want to ask and how to go about this.... It's between 2 women. 1- My friend from high school. I wouldn't say we are "best friends" but she is definitely someone I want in my life for a very long time to come. We are the kind of friends where we could get busy, go 3 months without talking and then one day just pick it up at lunch like no time has passed. 2- My fiance's sister. I personally do not have a sister (if I did, this problem would be a no brainer). The 2 of us have had some problems getting along in the past. I find it weird because our personalities are very similar, we like all the same things and in theory one would say we could be best friends...But we are not. As hard as I try, I swear she is trying just as hard to push me away. Why would I want her to be my MOH then? Well, I feel it is the ultimate gesture of kindness and the just right thing to do. I mean we will be family whether she likes it or not. I have heard many stories from friends and family who had their best girl friend as their MOH and poof, 5 years down the road, she disappears!! Never to be heard from again. Recently, when we started to nail down our wedding date and the cruise line and such, my best friend of 11 years, bailed. She was distant all of the sudden lately and I knew something was wrong. So I started pushing her to get a straight answer of whether or not our cruise wedding would be something she could afford seeing how she is a single mom of 2 kids. Finally, she told me I was expecting too much of her and that this isn't how a friend should act, we shouldn't be friends anymore and I haven't heard from her since. So, to say the least, the best friend thing is out. The other issue is I will only be having one attendant. We decided one person each to save of money for not only us but also those who would have been asked. We didn't want to burden people with the additional expense of dresses/suites and so on. I really think the best thing to do is ask my future sister in law but I have a feeling she will say no. But after all the years I have been with my fiance and the amount of effort I have put into trying to build a relationship with his sister, I would be crushed if she said no. Has anyone had an issue like this in the past? How did you deal? Did everything turn out OK? Any advise would be appreciated Sarah

Hello all! We finally decided the dates for our cruise wedding next year! Now we are really focusing on the guest list and I read a couple forums from years past that state their cruise line only allowed a certain number of guests and then after that, they were charged per person for additional guests. NOTE* I have only read this about Carnival and Royal Caribbean... We decided to go with Princess and get married at sea. My question is: Does anyone know if Princess has a limit on guests you can invite to your wedding if your wedding is at sea? So therefore, all guests attending will be sailing guests. Or is this only with weddings at port where you have non-sailing guests too? Also, has anyone done a different reception like a dessert reception? We were thinking of just having the ceremony, then reserve tables for everyone at one of the main restaurants and eat dinner with everyone else and then hold a small reception with only desserts. This way we could still do the cake cutting and also do our first dance. But then I don't know how this would work with the photographer (we will be using their photographer). I doubt they would want to stay and watch us all eat! lol I hope this doesn't come off wrong but I just don't want to pay for a meal for everyone when they are already technically paying for one with their cruise. Thanks!! Sarah

We have known we wanted a cruise wedding with as many people who can come as possible and have made this known to friends and family since October 2013. Our wedding is October 2015!!! My best friend just basically threw in the towel almost immediately when we made it official and picked a date and said she wont be attending because of cost and decided at the same time, that we just shouldn't be friends. Said I was expecting too much of her... I think something else was going on there but who knows... We decided on a 4 day cruise to Mexico. Something close by, no immediate family would have to fly anywhere (unless they really wanted to i guess). We are going the cheapest route I feel for a DW. So this obviously really upset me. Now, we are hearing all sorts of behind the scenes drama from HIS family. His brother who has 4 kids doesn't want them to be in the wedding because of the additional cost. His sister lost her job recently and is freaking out about the cost. And they are all complaining about it behind our backs! We had a sit down lunch with just the parents to finalize the dates before we put money down and they present me with a printed out list of everyone's financial concerns. Basically they are comparing cost to his sister's wedding that was held in April locally. I mean they were including cost of all the parties and gifts and clothing and everything they spent on her wedding up to the very day and they think I want everything the same. I will do my best to accommodate and help where I can but I'm no millionaire. I can only do so much. I feel like I am being made out to be some horrible evil story book character because we want a cruise ship wedding. Oh and don't even get me started on the comments made about my pinterest board! Heaven forbid I "like" something or if I think something is cute and pin it. Doesn't mean I HAVE TO HAVE IT!!! Anyways, the way I see it, it's not just a wedding, it's a vacation with our closest friends and family. It's a chance for all of us to be together for a period of time uninterrupted and for the 2 families to come together as one. Since the talk, we have decided to only have one attendant each (his sister and brother), no flower girls or ring bearers, no ushers. And we have even offered to pay for her dress, his suit and whatever else we want them to wear on that day. That should help with the financial burden but I feel like I am giving up way too much... It's like I'm losing control of my entire wedding ideas and dreams. I don't know what to do. I kind of feel like eloping is our best option right now. Sorry for the extreme amount of venting but It's upset me so much. Has anyone else had this insane amount of drama this early in the game? Is this a bad sign for whats to come while planning this wedding? I thought planning a DW was less stressful and less drama....

I know I am replying so beyond late on this topic but I wanted to throw in that A. I LOVE the fingerprint guestbook idea but I have had A LOT of push back from family and friends on this. They are sketched out by the fact that their fingerprint would be out there like that. But in reality, it'll be in a frame on a wall somewhere in my home. Has anyone else had this problem? I find it to be very bizarre.

Thank you ladies! And what great questions. Some I didn't think about so I made sure to write them down in my planning notebook so when the time comes, I can ask. We won't even know what dates are available for next fall yet for at least another week or so. Its nice to take some time to plan because I can cover all the bases. I'm learning so much already from forums and reviews that I've read. does princess provide a discount if you "block" a certain number of rooms for your guests? I guess I could just make sure they all go through princes or talk to the same rep so everyone is on the same page... Oh and how would you word your save the dates and invites? It seems like its going to get tricky. I don't want to confuse people!! Lol

Hello!! I am getting married in 2015 and we are just starting our planning for a cruise wedding. We have narrowed down our top choice to be Princess. But for brides who have been married on a cruise( any cruise line), could anyone give me some ideas of what to ask our consultant? Does anyone have any tips that may come in handy? Did you come into problems when planning your wedding? Any surprises I should consider(good or bad)? I've got plenty of time to work this all out but I don't want to forget anything!! Any advice would be helpful. ???? Thanks! Sarah