I am marrying on the 21st of May 2013, 4 years from OUR first date! Awesome! I say, though both dresses are beautiful, if you don't LOVE your wedding dress, you don't love it. And I would be heartbroken to look at my pictures years after the fact, and think I should have worn something else. I say you still have plenty of time to get a wedding gown. Sell the one you bought that is shorter (and more uncomfortable than you wanted), and not buy your friend's. Maybe try to find something similar to the gown you love, but longer so you can wear the shoes you want? Just a thought. Good Luck!!