cogrl

So sorry about your experience...and so glad I found this post! I really thought I was the only one whose "friends" suddenly weren't my friends at all with the whole wedding thing. My fiancé and I are getting married - by ourselves - on a cruise through Italy, and then having a reception after the wedding. We didn't invite anyone on the cruise because we knew that it would be too hard for our family to afford it, and we didn't want anyone to feel badly about not being able to come, or spend money that they really couldn't. The reception is going to be low key, but a pretty typical reception despite not having a "wedding" that people attend. I sent an email to my "best" friends who WOULD have been in my wedding if I had had one here, to see if they would be able/interested in doing a bachelorette party in Las Vegas (most of them do not live where I do, so it would actually be cheaper to just go to Vegas, than to come here. Most of them said - yes - they would do whatever I wanted - yay! My sister made the plans, sent out invites, and most of them never even responded to her. She had to send multiple invites and I finally had to text them to confirm that they obviously weren't going. All of them are people whose wedding I attended - flew to most of them, did bridal showers, etc. for them. My "best" friends literally said - I am just really busy in June, and I just can't swing it financially. I am not asking them to go to the wedding, to buy a dress, nothing!!! Not one of them has called to see how plans are going, to ask about anything, etc. I literally cried for a week - a little ashamed to say it, but my feelings are really hurt. I really feel like none of the people that I considered my closest friends even care at all. Just sucks - totally makes something that is supposed to be a happy time for my fiancé and I very bittersweet. :-( Anyhow - this thread has made me feel a lot better, and it was nice to vent a little. Best wishes for your wedding!