Hi! I am also new to this site and got engaged a couple of months ago . I need to definitely reccomend Le Reve to you!! My finace and I were there for vacation in February and fell in LOVE with this place! It is a little gem on a quiet beach. The boutique style of it (compared to the all inclusive) makes it even better! I loved it so much that thats where we decided to get married next May as well (MAY 19, 2012). I know you said it may sound restrictive BUT they are totally willing to work with you. The wedding coordinator there, Arlenis, is so helpful and they can do almost anything you want. If you have 50 people total (including you and your groom), you can reserve the whole hotel so only your guests can stay there, and then you are allowed to have kids because it basically YOUR resort for Thurs through Sunday. Also, I found an amazing deal with Le Reve and Del Sol Photography and this website. Del Sol photography is the best rated photography in the area and their work is amazing. Check out this link to see the details of the promotion http://www.bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/thread/73510/del-sol-photography-la-luna-photography-hotel-lereve-bdwf-promotion . . Also, take a look at these pictures that Del Sol Photography took of Le Reve http://delsolphotography.com/blog/content/galleries/?gal=238 You get the 6th hour of photography free when you purchase 5 hours, you get 2 nights free if you stay 5 nights at Le Reve, and a 30% discount on all your stays at Le Reve forever. Aslo, your entire party gets 20% discount on the room rates. So far, working with Le reve ad Del Sol has been perfect. I know you said you wont have the chance to go see the venues in person, so I just wanted to let you know you cant go wrong with Le Reve! Hope this helps