Hi ladies I did not have a private reception - I did the basic spoon restaurant package which is included and the food was GREAT. We got to chose our menu. I did see a few private receptions by the pool which was cute but to be honest it's a lot of money for a private event and your guests may head in early because it's a long day. I did have a private cocktail hour on the beach for my guests. It was $150 for 20 of us and the food was fantastic. Just got basic appetizers but they were filling. It also included our our private bartender for 2 hours. Worth the money. We brought an iPod and our own mini speakers for music As for the wedding music I brought my iPod and they played the music for me. You will need 4 songs, the procession for you and for groom, for the signing of the documents plus sand ceremony and for the end. I gave the wedding planners my iPod the day of. For anyone wanting a down hairdo I would suggest against it. I wanted a down do but it was way to wind for it and even the spa suggested I do an up do. For gift bags we did a welcome letter, a bag in our colors, SPF lip balm, a wedding passport book, personalized plastic mugs for drinks, fans, water, gum, disposable waterproof cameras and SPF sunblock. The big hit was the cameras and sunblock. All our guests forgot sunblock and ALL of the eventually needed it. Premium room amenities was our own swim up pool and hot tub on the patio, aromatherapy every night, personal concierge which came in handy, aromatherapy bath products picked by us, premium guest cocktail hour and immediate service. If you can splurge I would splurge on the premium swim up jacuzzi suite. SO SO SO worth it.