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Those are amazing!!!! You look so happy - and beautiful!!

Sure, you'll be hot. You won't notice enough to care. I got married in August in Cancun and it was hot as blazes. I loved my dress and wouldn't have changed a thing!

Yikkers! I'm so sorry you're going through this!

I know writing the letter will make you feel better. Don't do it. It won't be received well, and anything that they can warp will be warped. If you really feel you need to write it, can you write it and not send it? If you send it to them they will hold it over you for the rest of your life, and probably your kids' lives. Can you imagine the day when they drag that letter out and show it to your 7-year-old son (or whatever) and say "see how mean mommy is - she's bad and you should hate her".

At this point, I would avoid ALL contact with them. Leave any conversation or communication up to FI. Just stay away from them - you're 6 weeks out, don't let them hurt you any further.

Personally, I like the idea of having a quiet legal ceremony sooner rather than later if your FI is up for it. That way it will effectively shut down your FILs and anything they do.

Good luck! Chin up!

They look great! Well done!

I'm sorry it's so stressful! The good news is that I think most of us survivied it!

For me the worst part was about 3 days before - I had everything packed and ready to go, and I kept pouring over lists, opeining suitcases, double checking EVERYTHING because I was certain I was going to forget SOMETHING.

In the end, we got there and all of the stress, headaches, sleepless nights were not even there and it was wonderful!

Big hugs! You're almost there!

Send them out no later than September 1, with a late September RSVP date if you need a headcount by October 1. I can't explain why people think they don't need to respond, but invariably there will be a group that you have to follow up with.

What a fabulous story! Thanks for sharing!

Frankly, count your blessings. It sounds like she was going to be one of "those" BMs anyway. If I were guessing, I'd say that she may have decided that she just didn't want to go, didn't want to wear the dress, didn't want *something* and this just a convenient reason to give you.

My advice is to be incredibly (or falsely) gracious about it and move on. It's totally not worth the headache to worry over.

I was married on August 9 last year, and the weather was spectacular!

If your heart is set on September 4, and Cancun, I say go for it! Yes, there's a risk of bad weather, there's also a pretty good chance it will be beautiful. I just checked weather underground (Welcome to Weather Underground : Weather Underground) and here's what September 4 looked like for the past 5 years:

2008 - high 89, low 75, 2.45 inches of rain

2007 - high 86, low 73, 0.15 inches of rain

2006 - high 93, low 77, no rain

2005 - high 95, low 73, no rain

2004 - high 91, low 75, no rain

So, in 5 years, there was really only one day with any significant rain. If you love it, do it.

Wow! There are so many new Paradisus Brides - it was such a great place to have our wedding, you guys will LOVE it! Perla is about the nicest person in the world, and very, very thorough.

We did find a couple of times that she would send an e-mail but we wouldn't receive it. So if you haven't heard from her in 3-4 days don't hesitate to send a note. And if you get really desperate enough to pay the charges, she's great over the phone!

Great flowers Lori!!

It's Carpenter ICG - Gorgeous!

Just be aware that the lowercase lettering is teeny, so you have to have lots of space to make it nice and big in order to read it.

Personally, my experience is that the Mexican chefs do amazing things with pork. Chicken, when you break it down, is pretty much always chicken.

However, any chance you're going to have any jewish guests that keep Kosher, or Kosher-ish?

Yael!!!!! OMG you looked fantastic! And yes, Nathaniel is the best photographer in the whole wide world!

I don't know the ROR's photographers at all, but I think it's pretty common for photos to take 6-8 weeks, sometimes longer.

Have you reached out to them and just checked in to see what the status is?

Beautiful flowers Kenya!!! You're getting so close! Are you getting excited yet?

You can find the background paper by googling "corrugated cardstock" - it's not too hard to find. Velum paper is pretty easy to work with - just be sure to get paper that works with your printer - ink jet velum is different than laser velum. And if you do laser, set the printer to a glossy paper finish, and you're set!

Good luck!

I wouldn't totally give up on discountmugs. I used them, and while they did have to re-do the order (printed in the wrong color), they fixed it and expressed shipped the new ones. And I still use some of my leftover mugs in the pool, and there's been no problem with the ink. Ours were printed on plastic travel mugs that had a stainless steel interior. But, let the salesperson know what your intention is (having them in a pool)and have them steer you to the right cup.

To me, the thing about the size of the logo could be a problem, but just get them to tell you in writing what the size of the print will be. If it's too small, look elsewhere.

But their prices are good, the minimums aren't a problem. Just handle your order, sample, etc. with care, give yourself plenty of time in case there's a problem and you should be fine.

Good luck!

Oh but I LOVE me some DIY!!

First of all, please, I beg you, don't include registry stuff in your invites!!!! It is a HUGE faux pas. It's fine to put it on your website (with the disclaimer of "your presence is all we could ask for"), but not in your invites.

As far as how to "register", both actually have a registry:

For home depot, just go to (or open) your account, and there's an option for registry.

I don't know how you do it for Lowe's, but I've bought items there from a registry, so you should be able to find it.

good luck!

Aw, thanks Karima!

I was actually just popping in to say hi to all the August 2010 brides from an August 2008 bride when I saw your post.

Hi August 2010 brides!!!! Getting married in August 2008 was fabulous! Good luck with all your planning!

I very frequently put the "formal invite to follow" on the second (or last) page of a boarding pass STD. That way it doesn't detract from the excitement of the message being delivered.

Also, these days, you hardly need to include it at all because the STD has become such a common thing. When they were less common, people added it to make sure that the recipient knew that there would be a formal invite.

I've also had clients specifically tell me NOT to include it, simply because they won't be sending formal invites to those who confirm that aren't going to come.

So, any way you go, I think you're covered!

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Gorgeous dress Cara! I got mine hemmed for my heels, but then ended up barefoot pretty much the whole time. I figured it would drag a bit in the sand during the ceremony, but it had a train anyway, so what was a little more?