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ITA with Kash on this one. Your guests are paying a lot of money and putting in a lot of time and effort to be your guest at your wedding. Many people simply don't like AI resorts for one reason or another - so what? now they're less welcome or going to be penalized because they have a preference to stay elsewhere?

IMO paying for your guests is the appropriate thing to do in this scenario. Of course you can encourage them to stay at your resort, but should they choose to stay off-site you should absolutely pick up the cost of their pass.

congratulations. there are tons of great locations. This forum is a great resource. good luck!

You should pay for the day passes.

hi Shanna,

I was just married at the end of March in Cabo. We were also worried about not being there to see anything - we never even did a site visit. Things really do work out though - everything was perfect. The best advice I can give you is to try not to get too emotionally invested in anything. Just go with the flow and be flexible

welcome and congratulations! Jamaica is a fabulous place to get married

welcome and congratulations!

best wishes. Relax, and have fun -- congrats!

glad that you're feeling better! gorgeous photos.

gorgeous Sarah! (and Juan)

congratulations! I think that this is a great decision for you guys. You will not regret having your wedding down there and you can always do a big AHR when you get back.

now promise us - no more changes of plan

I just wanted to let ya'll know that my DH did a group golf outing at Groupo Maya (I think??) near San Jose.

there were 16 guys and he arranged for a price of $50 each or $60 with club rental and cart. The course is only a 9 hole so they played it twice. They all really enjoyed golfing there. hope that helps someone.

I agree with Christa.

It seems like Erik always has an excuse for why something won't work. Are you certain that he's 100% invested getting married? I hate to be the one to say it, but it seems like he's been putting up roadblocks the whole way. I would hate to see you get hurt in this situation.

I am just speaking from my experience, but I know that my husband and I went through a lot, including calling it off once, before we finally made the decision to go through with it and do it in Cabo. And once we did, he was there for every major decision, even if only in support, but often times he was making the decisions with me. Because it was important to him that the day reflected him, and US through his eyes. (does that make sense??)

Beyond that, this is a really important and challenging period in your relationship and it also really is going to set boundaries for the future of your relationship with your MIL. If he isn't willing to go to bat for you now that's a major red flag in my book. It implies that either he's not willing to make your feelings a priority, or perhaps he just doesn't care enough to deal with it. Either way, it seems like now would be a GREAT time to sit down and have a serious talk with him about your future. And I would not bring up the wedding, rather I would focus on talking about your future plans and what the two of you really want from your relationship. If you find that you have mutual goals and then maybe there's something else that's holding him back. Perhaps it's the fear of committing for the rest of your life - I know that was a HUGE fear of mine.

I know that weddings are supposed to be the happiest day of your life, blah, blah. But what truly matters is the commitment that you make.

Not the hooplah. A million dollar blowout wedding isn't going to make things any better, or make you two any happier if you're not 100% sure.

I think I am rambling now, and I don't want to come off as bitchy, I just feel a bit skeptical. I've watched you jump into planning and projects since you have been on this board, and I don't think I've heard you say that your FH has been on board for any of it. I really do wish the best for you so of course, take my advice with a grain of salt. These are just my outsider observations.

at this point, I would say elope in Cabo in July.

You can donate it to brides against breast cancer.

Brides Against Breast Cancer

We carried ours on (through LAX) with NO problem.

I used HIVE spa

We were married at our county courthouse the Monday before we left. I think each state is different, but for us it was a cinch. We showed up, filled out the application, showed the clerk our ID's -- she made us take an oath and then told us that she would meet us in their small almost booth-like chapel. We went in, she put on a robe and performed a short, sweet ceremony. We did not exchange rings or do anything special. We did not need a witness. And we didn't dress up. It was a cold day so I was in a black juicy sweatsuit. Really romantic, I know.

beautiful hotel pricey and I had a bad experience. We dined at the esperanza on my husband's birthday. Horrible, horrible service. Dinner was extremely expensive and the hotel did nothing about the poor service. I would not recommend it.

you guys look great. Tammy your belly is so cute!

great review. Sounds like it was a fabulous time!

wow, beautiful! congrats Sarah & Jeff~

beautiful, congrats!

ITA with Natasha.

June will be really crowded. In August/ early Sept a lot of the towns shut down as the locals go on holiday.

The S&S is a nice hotel but gets very mediocre reviews. Are there any other hotels / venues that you are looking at in OC?