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1) Get credit card. 2) Use credit card to purchase photographer's services. 3) Problem solved. Look, the following in this post isn't going to go over well on this forum, mostly because its from a Groom's perspective. However, I read this forum with my fiance and often think: This forum desperately needs a massive dose of blunt honesty. Listen: You and your Groom should be splitting some bills. Anything you get from your parents is extra, or as we say down here "lagniappe". It sounds like you are getting a LOT from your parents, so you don't have a lot to complain about. If his parents or your parents don't want to pay for something, then YOU should be paying for it, without ANY questions asked or whining. If your Groom has saved "100's of thousands of dollars" and doesn't want to help you with all of the expenses of the wedding, especially something as basic as a photographer, you may want to re-assess your relationship. Seriously. Sorry if that's harsh, but its the truth. Last bit of advice: RELAX. Take matters into YOUR OWN hands. Now! You'll be less stressed when YOU control things. Its one day in your life. Part of the point of having a destination wedding is having FUN, and it doesn't sound like you're having much. Getting along with your future husband, his family, your family, and keeping yourselves financially responsible for the future is far more important than any relatively minor part of a "big day". All of those other things are much more important to the success of your marriage. (and yeah, I'm a Groom...I just haven't changed all the profile stuff yet)